Dearest Readers,
This post is going to be a bit different than the positivity I love to shower but then I guess its OK to be yourself at times.
Birthdays are the most special occasions for all.They are the days wherein people are on cloud 9.As for me I hate birthdays.I just do not like them.Surprised??Ask me why.
Every year since I was a kid,my family celebrated my birthdays very lavishly.No complaining there.But then I started realising that there was always this comparison of gifts.If I gifted an expensive gift to that particular friend,she or he would do the same for me.I smelled money,rich and poor and priorities there.This irked me to no bounds.If you love me make me a hand written card..It would have been enough and better than a lifeless,half-hearted,same priced as my previous gift to you,is what I felt.Then I grew up and birthday parties at home stopped.We all were grown up and teenage had taken a toll on us.Now the parties and dinners started taking place in pubs,5 star hotels,etc.Even then I found out that I still hate birthdays.Because there was no celebration until I call for one.There is nothing if I don't throw a party.Those same people who came all the way to all your 19 birthday parties at home don't turn up on your 20th and 21st.People forget your birthdays.And people forget to wish at 12 o'clock too.I just could find that there was no surprise element left to a birthday.Instead people come down to their "asli aukat" on birthdays itself.People show their true colours on such special occasions itself.I have seen many of my associates have not celebrated their birthdays after the 16th one or so.I have seen people who are alone on their birthdays.I have also seen people who spoil other people's birthdays.Birthdays suck.Birthdays give you another reason to be sad in this already mundane life.It happens because he didn't wish me,she didn't come to meet me,my family did nothing special.Birthdays just fail the expectations you have set up on that day.There is a huge hue and cry about birthdays and they are overrated I feel.They just make me sad.Real sad.Sad to the bottom of my stomach.
I'm scared of birthdays actually.I fear rejection.I fear that people will forget to wish me.I will be alone on that day.I get nightmares too.I just wish this concept itself was cancelled.I would be less worried and more at peace.This fear is also to be blamed on the media.They project birthdays as the most important national event and have portrayed the celebration of birthdays in such a way that you have to get gifts.You have to have a surprise.You have to cut a cake.WHY?
What if nobody has ever done anything to surprise you.What if nobody brought a cake?What if there is no glamour to it?Your so called birthday is spoilt and you have one more scar on your memory about that day.Disappointments.Expectations violated and hearts broken.Is what birthdays are all about.I don't like birthdays.And I want to run away from mine.That's it.
I'm so sure many of you must be having many different opinions about this.And I want to know all.Please try and change my opinion if you can.And ofcourse if you love birthdays you may continue and invite me for a party too!;)
So birthday or no birthday....what's your story?
-Peace n love
Shalaka
This post is going to be a bit different than the positivity I love to shower but then I guess its OK to be yourself at times.
Birthdays are the most special occasions for all.They are the days wherein people are on cloud 9.As for me I hate birthdays.I just do not like them.Surprised??Ask me why.
Every year since I was a kid,my family celebrated my birthdays very lavishly.No complaining there.But then I started realising that there was always this comparison of gifts.If I gifted an expensive gift to that particular friend,she or he would do the same for me.I smelled money,rich and poor and priorities there.This irked me to no bounds.If you love me make me a hand written card..It would have been enough and better than a lifeless,half-hearted,same priced as my previous gift to you,is what I felt.Then I grew up and birthday parties at home stopped.We all were grown up and teenage had taken a toll on us.Now the parties and dinners started taking place in pubs,5 star hotels,etc.Even then I found out that I still hate birthdays.Because there was no celebration until I call for one.There is nothing if I don't throw a party.Those same people who came all the way to all your 19 birthday parties at home don't turn up on your 20th and 21st.People forget your birthdays.And people forget to wish at 12 o'clock too.I just could find that there was no surprise element left to a birthday.Instead people come down to their "asli aukat" on birthdays itself.People show their true colours on such special occasions itself.I have seen many of my associates have not celebrated their birthdays after the 16th one or so.I have seen people who are alone on their birthdays.I have also seen people who spoil other people's birthdays.Birthdays suck.Birthdays give you another reason to be sad in this already mundane life.It happens because he didn't wish me,she didn't come to meet me,my family did nothing special.Birthdays just fail the expectations you have set up on that day.There is a huge hue and cry about birthdays and they are overrated I feel.They just make me sad.Real sad.Sad to the bottom of my stomach.
I'm scared of birthdays actually.I fear rejection.I fear that people will forget to wish me.I will be alone on that day.I get nightmares too.I just wish this concept itself was cancelled.I would be less worried and more at peace.This fear is also to be blamed on the media.They project birthdays as the most important national event and have portrayed the celebration of birthdays in such a way that you have to get gifts.You have to have a surprise.You have to cut a cake.WHY?
What if nobody has ever done anything to surprise you.What if nobody brought a cake?What if there is no glamour to it?Your so called birthday is spoilt and you have one more scar on your memory about that day.Disappointments.Expectations violated and hearts broken.Is what birthdays are all about.I don't like birthdays.And I want to run away from mine.That's it.
I'm so sure many of you must be having many different opinions about this.And I want to know all.Please try and change my opinion if you can.And ofcourse if you love birthdays you may continue and invite me for a party too!;)
So birthday or no birthday....what's your story?
-Peace n love
Shalaka
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