Within the storms of the mind!

Today when I saw the same,familiar face which was 6 yrs and exactly 2 months old to my body,
I realised yet again,upon his sight why does my mind always become cloudy.
I realised that I was a wrongly manufactured piece of God,
who could only love and forgive but never forget even his single nod.

Till day I was bluffing and foul playing with myself I realised,
He'll come back one day and we could have a happy family I had picturised.
Oh don't forget the dog which we also would have had,
But all I could feel is the emptiness after he left,and that made even my DNA sad.

The regret is not about the refusal of my unconditional love,
but about how delicate the human heart is,like the wings of a dove.
The shock is not about the way he left,on a serene night while I was far asleep...making no noise,without prior notice,mercilessly..
But about how nothing is ever enough for people who behave so carelessly.

The tears are not for him,Oh no..
but they are for washing away that every inch of pain that I  have felt,
when my brain had warned me not to do so.
All that shattering of my life,my body,my every cell inside is not what hurts,
I myself am surprised by how bad luck with my destiny flirts.

How now even a baby's loud cry makes me cry too,is astonishing
I guess my heart has also been there,through all that suffering.
I come to my senses as the man behind me honks,through my lost,vacuum filled eyes I see the signal green,I thought the clock was ticking...as if to show me how much time I had wasted thinking.

It was time I stopped shaping air into an idol of Love,
there was no use,no future,no purpose to serve.
The problem was not with me I knew,
some roads come without a destination and for these there is no one whom you can sue.
Maybe there are no endings,let alone happy..
Maybe somethings are meant to be half filled.
Maybe,just maybe in some other universal combinations we could just be.


-Peace n Love
Shalaka

URGENT REMINDER!!!

Dearest Readers,
Today I will be writing a very serious post and I hope you have your heart a bit hardened.
Recently,it did come in papers,as well as news that near Ambegao Pune,8 people..of our age,driving 2 4 wheelers met with an accident.One of them died.She was Krutika,my best friend's best friend whom I had recently met.She was much of a mini celeb and had a huge friend circle.All her dear ones called her bubbly because that was what exactly what she was.Full of life,extremely cheerful and very loving as well as down to earth.She was a great combination of bold and beautiful.I wish I was writing a birthday post for her but she is no more.And this still haunts all of us.

It so happened that,on that fierce,cruel,unforgiving night all of the 8 friends were out for a party to celebrate the weekend and were drunk.This is not so alarming.They set out at 2-3 in the morning for the famous tiger point in Lonavala..A thing which most of us might have done.But the alarming part was that both the driver friends decided to race on a small bridge and that was a one way.Ofcourse it became the gateway to hell.Both drunk at top speeds crashed and the cars remaining are nothing but a piece of scrap left.All the 8 seriously injured and my buddy Krutika no more.

After I heard the news in the morning I felt someone was playing a very bad joke on me.But I wish that was true.Our bubbly was no more.The car she was in crashed in the valley and it hit her head.Another friend got so injured that has many rods in her foot.She was to go to New Zealand for her dream career.She had the offer letter in her hand.Visa done and ready.Nothing is of use now.Krutika's very close and best friend was also among the group and saw her die in front of his eyes.Now tell me what did this party lead to?

The moment this fact sank in me,I had made it a point to write to all of you.Many things come to my mind.First ,what must be going on in her parents minds.She had told a lie when she left her house.Her poor parents are still in shock.Its only after you see death so closely that you realise the value of so so many things.Parents,friends,your own life.She had many dreams,of getting married,of having her own dream job..everything shattered.The sad part is,human body is extremely perishable.Just a heartattack,just an injury to the brain and done.You are no more.Leaving a whole pool of tears.The next thought which comes to mind was the horror of the incident.This will haunt all the people close to her and all her friends for the rest of our lives.The next,police case and media involved and ofcourse how cheaply they tell you how it all happened.Cheap is the only word.Like their hearts are made out of stone.Cold.The next the love of her life maybe.Her sister.Poor her.She won't ever be allowed for a sleepover or so plus the support she lost.And the list of thoughts can't stop even after so many days of the incidence.Her body being brought like she was just some piece of flesh.My heary could scream a NO.A Wake up,lets go out on our "adda".But no bubbly answers this time.Just killing silence.

To all my fellow mates out there please please please its my earnest request to you that please don't drink and drive.Never.PLEASE NEVER RACE.Nothing is achieved by that.You want to prove your manhood please wrestle.This won't help.And think before you actually do something wrong,about your poor parents sitting at home worrying about you.Your heart knows when to stop and whats wrong.
We all still can't sleep and it is still a shock to all of us.This a huge lesson learnt and lets make this a social movement and tell each and every one possible about this incidence and the precautions to be taken.You know what friends,enjoyement is a big part of life and it should be done.But in limits.You must draw them.Excess of nothing is good.I so feel if both the driver friends knew this,Kru as we used to call her fondly would still be cracking a joke on this.Apart from this,that day itself I decied that I will not fight with my loved one and friends,hold no grudges and do no bad or hurt any one.You never know when its your last or their last day.Such times shake you up and question the whole of your attitude towards life.We use the word suicide so oftenly we don't realise.Life is a gift.Its not meant to be wasted on alcohol or cheap temporary,life threatening enjoyment.
Please wake up guys and inform all your friends.Also pray for my Kru's soul whose so many dreams must be still unfulfilled.I will miss her and make sure that such a thing will never happen to anyone of us.

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Blog is Back!

Dearest Readers,
Hello,how are you and how was your vacation?Enjoyed the summer days?Or did it get too hot for you?Well after a huge response from all of you for the last blog marathon that I did..I am planning something similar this time too!And ofcourse a big big thank you to all of you who read this space regularly and bless me with your feedback.I am truly thankful to one n all.
I had my engineering exams right since mid april till end of may... followed by a lovely vacation to the lovelier Mauritius.Will write all about it very soon.So today's post is nothing but a reminder that yes,I did not forget my sweetheart my blog nor did I forget you guys.So I just thought that now that it was  exactly mid year,mid june and also also all of you must have started to resume your old life and back from vacations and ready or not so ready to take on the rest of this year.Thats when I think you will mostly need to read my blog for lots of fun,thought provoking things,and family wala feeling as well as a bit of entertainment for your boring mudane life.
Lets get started!!!Keep telling your friends and their friends that the BLOG IS BACK!And I promise,you won't be dissapointed.We start with actual posts tommorrow.

Goodnight,sleep tight and now that I am back,give your worries to me!

LOTS OF

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Boys/Girls are whatever,Friends are Forever.

Dearest Readers,
I did write a short post yesterday inspite of my dull mood and a very bad day.Did you notice?Also I did not write anything just to fill up a post.I wrote what I did and to the full honesty of my heart.Well life goes on and you have to move on.

I have never done a "friends" post.I did not feel like because I did not feel anyone was worth my friendship.Life is a bitch and it has never really blessed me with a whole lot of friends and a huge group to hang out with.Let alone that...many close ones have also ditched me so bad I almost lost faith in humanity.I am a person who would give a trillion chances for million mistakes.I also tried to make new friends forgetting the past experience and also thinking somewhere I must be wrong.What I ended up was being with more fake people.These days many of our friends are fake.They get jealous of your success and laugh behind your back seeing you get hurt or at your tears.Most of them I am saying.Not all.
But seriously keeping aside the failure of my destiny and not constantly cribbing about it,CURRENTLY,I am just saying,currently I am blessed with two very loyal friends.And by loyal I mean if I look sexier than them today they will compliment me and spank my ass and they can also tell me that I smell today and can make out that I skipped my bath today. :D
Such should be friendships.Selfless.Flawless.Jealousyless.Lovefilled.Encouragement filled.They both are the people who will make it a point to meet me almost daily and if I feel low they will almost immediately cheer me up.They make me happy.And make me forget my bad past or irritable current or worried future.We plan out movies and having fun time in the evening spots.We decide to go parties and to go GOA.For many of you this might be a routine but for me I have received such genuine friendship after a wait for 15+ years.These are the people who truly make me happy and joyous,inside out.I never believed in friendship days or friendship quotes but I am actually reconsidering this.This is true that friendship is the best relationship.It is like being in a relationship without its daily troubles and fights and perks.It is much tension free.Yesterday itself I heard a dialogue of Sex and the City that maybe our friends are our soulmates and our partners are the ones whom we can just have fun with.Read physical fun. :D

Even having a lot of friends and that too nice ones leads to a happy being single road.Many people are truly happily single because they can have all the fun and frolic with friends and they don't need any physical fun.Also I guess that those needing that fun and wanting to enjoy friendship and the no bondage gives rise to friends with benefits type of relationship.


So whats your take?Single and fabulous with friends!?no real friends?or friends with benefits?;)
Whatever might be your call...I am just feeling blessed tonight.And even you should try and have a small or large but clean minded set of people called as true and best friends!!And consider me one of them! :*


-Peace n Love
Shalaka

5 things which may brighten your dull day!

Dearest Readers,
I am having a dull day.Blame the submisions.Or the people around you.So a short post.
This is what I did to brighten up.
1)Watched sex n city episodes.
2)Watched Ghost serials on Zee Marathi! :D
3)Talked to someone whom I like.
4)Wished a very dear friend of mine.
5)Listened to Burn it Down by Linkin Park.

What are your hacks?For a dull day.

-Peace n love
Shalaka

2 Pictures!

Dearest readers,
today I am sharing two pictures with you which I found on the internet.Both of them say a lot.
Check them out.Also we have ended our love themed posts... so something new from tomorrow.I hope all of you enjoyed reading whatever I had to say about love.Ofcourse this is not the end of love as I love love and writing about it.I will write about it once I find something interesting.All your suggestions are most welcome.
So check out these pictures and tell me how much you agree.Also there is going to be a surprise at the end of this blog marathon which is on 31st.For that you just need to be in touch with me and my blog.A real world surprise.Nothing virtual or on computers,phones.It will be my token of love for you.So keep reading and please please keep sharing the url of my blog to your parents,friends,boyfriends,girlfriends.Everyone.

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

India Beats Aussies!

Dearest Readers,
yet another win for India.And this time its hardwork.Virat has won many hearts today and is blessed by all.Yay!!India in the semis!

-Peace n lots of love for Virat today!
Shalaka

Is casual sex worth the effort?

Dearest Readers,
How was your weekend!?What are you going to do tomorrow?Are you busy or will you be chilling?Whatever you might be doing,don't drink and drive or drink and have sex. :D

Now this is a type of topic I have never written on and is a very bold step from my side.Caution is that it has no resemblance to my life.I am saying just on the basis of what I have heard and read and felt.So sex.What does this mean to you?Today's media is such that it screams out sex.There is sex on the t.v,in movies,in books,in newspapers and all over the internet.There is no secret about it and...it is ofcourse a natural thing to do by a human.But at times many people misunderstand this term "natural".Apart from that in India,sex is also a word which should be used only at the night times,with Sunny Leone,and mostly by boys.Indian society feels sex is not a need for a woman.Infact she is the slave.Now again many woman and men equally misinterpret the word "need" here.And this is what I want to come to today.The need of sex.

Actually if I tell you something you will say its your personal choice at what age should you have sex.But ask me biologically,anything less than 16 for both a girl and a guy is harmful.Psychologically,and maturity wise too.And then the next question when should a person have sex.Well according to me,sex is a very sacred bond between two individuals.It should be done after a year and more of a serious,committed relationship.Anything before that and not inside the close boundaries of a love filled relationship is what is called casual for me.

Sex.The media,the Indian mentality,the society has given this beautiful bond of love,trust a very very cheap stand.They all make sex sound dirty.When it is not the case.Sex is the ultimate gift from one person to another.It is your body and soul's way of saying I love you.It indicates trust.It is like a Pooja in Hindu religion.It is a thing which is to be worshiped and practised between two individuals only.It must be a private affair.It must be very special and with the consent of both.If people understand this simple thing that sex is the daughter of love and is to be shared with one person only,many lives would have been better by now.Now a days people treat sex like beer.They think it is an addiction,an entertainment,for enjoyment.And have no shame in doing so.I wonder where the morals of such people flies away.How can you have casual sex with another person?Just for a night?Just for fun?Without knowing him?Is your body and soul so hungry?Are you in your senses.I really doubt how can you get naked in front of the person you just met at the bar?What is so wrong with you?
Often one night stands,lead to a regretful morning.Not everybody enjoys this.But why indulge in casual sex in the first place.What if you are going to get a BMW,why settle for a Nano...just because you want to have a car?Don't you have two legs to walk on?I don't have a problem with pre martial sex.A test drive is always better than realising that your car does not have gears.But just one test drive is enough with one person.If all is okay,focus on falling in love wala part.
Also I need not tell you this but casual sex is also very dangerous.It can lead to sexually transmitted diseases.And a scar for a lifetime.You are not prostitutes.Then why sell your body.For just that moment of fun?People who are happy in relationships also cheat and have sex!Why?Variety is the spice of life?If you want so much of variety in life,its better you go on a diet.You are already in bad shape.

All I want to say is that sex is beautiful when done with a right partner at the right time.Don't let yourself in just because you are drunk or your friends are having sex or because you watched porn the other day.Wait.Patiently.To fall in love.And then when you both are comfortable see what joys it brings to you.How satisfied you will be.It will fill you up.If you are in a relationship the more the better.3 times a week is sexy and increases your health by reducing stress and feeling more committed towards your partner.Sex is the final paycheck after a nice meal.Enjoy your meal or relationship or love first.Don't be in the hurry to do it.Control your excitement.Have lots of kissing and foreplay.Make sure your partner likes all of this.
Hope you are morally correct and watching yourself and where you are headed too.A settled family with a lovely wife/husband or that slut's lane.

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

ReKindle.

Dearest Readers,
As we are talking on relationships and before moving on to more spicy topics,this is one thing I would like to touch upon.Fights in a relationship.They are such a big turn off for me.Why fights happen is that part of story we all have learnt by heart now.But what happens to your relationship after one fight,a series of fights,a series of not so serious breakups is what is worth pondering upon.

The depth of a fight is directly proportional to the love in the couple is what I feel.I consider the following fights as serious fights.One-Abusing and physical abuse.And this is actually a thing many couples indulge during a small fight but later how dare you hit me also comes in place.This type of relations must be quit immediately however hard,like smoking they may seem.A big NO.
Fights related to family and issues.These are those types wherein a family gets involved and a serious decision must be taken reguarding a relationship which has gone so wrong.Fights which has a partner involved in serious cheating like sex or kiss.Flirty messages may also be viewed serious.Apart from that what I call the average reason for fights is not wishing on anniversaries and birthdays.It simply shows your negligence towards your partner.Apart from that "Baby ne mere liye gift nahi laya.Baby muzhe party main nahi leke gaya"and all such other girly bullshit is bullshit.A fight over that must not lead to a breakup.Or I guess if your girl is too girly for you to handle rethink on your choice.As also if your guy is too possessive over a simple friend of yours time to stop him and the fight.

It is said that you don't value a thing untill it is gone.And trust me I feel so sad for the time I have wasted fighting with my best friends.You lose a lot of precious time which you could have spent in each other's arms instead of fighting.Once that person has gone from your life you will have nothing but regret.So stop fighting.Whatever the issue.Big or small.Sort it.Work upon it.Don't let the flame of your love die.Don't let love itself die.If you realise that even 1% it is your mistake say a sorry.Nothing wrong with that.I know a lot of girls complain that they are ones saying sorry after a fight but if your man does not say a sorry,like never,time to sit across a table and discuss things.EGO.A three letter word destroying relationships,since forever.Drop that.Think what is important.That person or yourself.Take love above all.Respect each other and your relationship more than anything else.Remember that time when you 1st kissed.Never forget the real reason why you got toghether.Make a nice board of it and put it in your bedroom.

I also know things get unacceptable at times and decide how much is too much for both of you.Do this right in the start of the relationship.Some cute fights also add spice to your life but at what rate is important.A fight in 3 weeks is what I consider normal,a no fight situation sounds dreamy and unhealthy for me.That way you lose the butterflies in your stomach when you see your partner coming running for you.Decide that you don't want to breakup and make this a successful relationship.Afterall who doesn't fight?

Give her those bouquets,chocolates,sorry text messages,45 calls,a collage of your old pictures and here again you will be back ruling her heart.Give him a kiss or turn up naked.That will do the needful I guess(a sincere sorry will also do).God bless you all.

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Have we moved on too much from love?

Dearest Readers,
Today I want to thank all of you for your opinions which I had asked you about,whether we should we continue with love themed posts or should we move on?Most of you voted for continuing the loved themed posts and I thank you for guessing what really was on my mind.And wishing all of you a Happy Happy Dhulivandan,the day we mostly play colours.Because I don't know how many of you have a holiday on Rangapanchami!Whenever you play colours make sure you play colours only without water.SAVE WATER FOLKS.Please.Maharashtra is really in a bad situation.

Now coming towards our topic.Are we moving on too much?Are we moving away too much from what we call the idea of love?Has love become your synonym word for bullshit?Do you roll eyes when you see couples smooching?If all of the above answers a YES.I guess you are a Misanthrope.Or have become one.

Why does this happen?In my eyes,you have done damage to yourself by believing that there is no one for you out there.You have done damage when you don't believe in love at first sight or you hate love or love hate or hate relationships.Why are you saying so?I guess many people jump to this conclusion because of a bad bad breakup.Their partner might have left them for no reason or a reason so silly one may not believe."I don't want to be in a relationship again!A relationship is too much of work.God,how much my girlfriend nags,my whole salary is spent in her gifts.God he is so possessive,so restrictive,he smokes,he doesn't listen to me or he never listened to me!He cheated/she cheated" Are the complains of every corner of the street.But as you can see here... poor love does not have a say.It has been left far behind.These are those silly little issues because of which relationships and love is blamed and cursed.All of the above issues can be solved.


What should be done to our generation is that we all should be given LOVE EDUCATION along with sex education.Basic rules of relationships like not to cheat or leave a partner for sick reasons is what everybody should understand and inculcate in themselves.If this kind of revolution happens no bad breakups might happen and then probably all the singles will start believing in love.I feel very sad when two people in love breakup or single people say relationships are a huge burden.They are not.Trust me.With the right person you will always feel motivated,happy and cheerful.Relationships give a spice to life.They are meant to make life beautiful and easy and comfortable.Not tearful,hurtful or simply awful.This generation needs to realise the value of TRUE LOVE.Yes it is there.Right there.But if you neglect it how will you enjoy this major joy of life.True love does exist my friends.By true love I mean the love protrayed in all the films of Ambitabh Bachan.You just need to wait and watch.Your prince charming,princess cutie will come.Like for breakups,even love will take time to come and it will come.Make sure you don't miss an opportunity to make your life happier and cosier.He/she might be a bit late.(okay,too late)but are you sure you are not ignoring that glitter in your best friend's eye when they see you?Are you sure you have spoken to that guy online who is really interested in you?Come on..the whole world is not that bad.Whats the harm in just one coffee?You ask or you go.



Even after a Bad relationship,all I say is you must not lose hope and lose faith on love.That person,that fight,those situations,that person's mindset/character was bad.And at fault.Love was not.Love is that cute little rabbit with sweetest eyes.Don't imagine it to be a monster with sharp nails.No.Not at all.That too because of some stupid bitch or bastard who broke your heart.Love Love.Its the most wonderful feeling in the world.It can give you unmatched confidence.It empowers you.And gives you something to look forward to every day in this long long boring life.Just make sure you have put on your spectacles properly while choosing your loved one.


So let those violins run in your head,let those flowers bloom in your mind,let chiffon saris flow with the wind and let all those romantic songs ring in your head.Let your heart beat loudly and eyes glisten up when you see her/him.I love you all.


-Peace n Love

Shalaka

India Again!

Dearest Readers,
Wordless Wednesday today!Posting a pic of the today's match we won!!Yay!!!India....India!What a match it was!So STAY STRONG like Hardik!!:D

Is your heart okay?

Dearest Readers,
 First things first,it is my 50th post!!!!YAY!!!!From the time I ever started blogging,this is my 50th post.Oh the joy!!I can't thank you enough for the support.I have the same feeling which Virat had day before yesterday.And I am bowing down in front of you readers as he did in front of Sachin and audience in total gratitude.I hope and promise to keep you entertained and force you to rethink till my last breath!Oh Boy!!I am all emotional.Half century and not out and long way to go!
Second things second..I took a lazy holiday yesterday!Why do I do this?!I was too emotionally drained actually but then a promise is a promise and commitment should be that.I am failing and sorry!Chuck this schedule man!
AND now,Our  as our title says-Is your heart okay?Okay.Read these lyrics for me.They struck me hard yesterday.

phool khilte hain,
log milte hain,
phool khilte hain,
log milte hain magar
patjhad main jo phool
murjha jate hain
woh baharon ke aane se khilte nahin
kuchh log ek roz jo bichad jate hain
woh hazaron ke aane se milte nahin
umr bhar chahe koi pukara kare unka naam
woh phir nahin aate,
woh phir nahin aate!

---------AND-------

subaah aati hai
raat jaati hai
subaah aati hai
raat jaati hai yuhi
waqt chalta hi rehta hai rookta nahi
ek pal me ye aage nikal jaata hai
aadmi theek se dekh paata nahin
aur parde pe manzar badal jaata hai,
ek baar chale jaate hai jo din raat subah shaam
woh, woh phir nahi aate
woh phir nahi aate!
zindagi ke safar mein,guzar jate hain jo makam
woh phir nahin aate,
woh phir nahin aate!

These are the beautiful lyrics of Zindagi ke safar main song by Kishor Kumar. Listen to the song if you never have.It is truly heart wrenching to hear them.Every chord just strucks right with me.In those simple 5 mins,Kishor Da has explained the gist of life.The whole meaning of it.What to do after a breakup.What happens to the people we lose.What to do when you know they are not coming back.Like forever.

You know at times you have tried your level best to bring a person back into your life after they have decided to walk away.They won't just listen.They are 100% sure they don't want you.What will you do.These are the times when you really need to take care of your heart.That poor thing is broken into million pieces and your tiny little world which you have built around the person who left you collapses.But as everybody says,you have to move on.You have to give time some time.The amount of time you are in a relationship divided by 2 will give the time you will require to move on;says Sex and the City.True shit.Give yourself all those crying moments you want,all those addictions you want to get to,spend time with friends,catch up on hobbies and good books,join gym.Do whatever it takes to take away your mind from those unwanted memories.Erase them.I know sometimes an entire lifetime is not enough to forget a person completely.But hey who is telling you to shift delete.You may keep the good part if you like.Just STAY STRONG.And get going with life.Time won't stop for you,so completely ignoring your career is not done.You have family and responsibilities and a MAJOR life outside that bitch/bastard you must not forget.You have your own dreams and you have to follow them.Do something crazy or adventurous. Focus somewhere else,on yourself maybe.Go camping.Just get a hold of your life soon.Talk it out with someone.I wish you and your heart all the very best for a better life ahead.A better future lies ahead.Believe in destiny.

Today we end our love themed posts...a week is over.But hey...I have many topics still in my mind like is casual sex worth the effort?Have we moved on a bit too much from love?How to rekindle in a relationship!So tell me my babies,what should we do?A week more of relationships,love and spice?Or no...you single ladies and lads getting bored and we should switch to some other general topics.Tell me,what would you like a hear?A half week more of this stuff maybe?Or a complete NO?

We started from crushes to now we have moved on.I have covered all the basics.We can move towards more and real complexities of life and love.Whatever your choice,I love you all!Have a good night!

-Peace n Love

Shalaka

India India!!!

Dearest Readers,
I know none of us are in the mood for any post or any romantic shit now!!!
Just party!!!!
India won!!!!!Yayayayayay!
enjoy your night!

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Are you friends with your ex?

Dearest Readers,
How is the week going on?Hectic?Busy?Boring?Mine was a combination of the all above.

I had read a few days back that the person whom we remember in the busiest of times is the person we actually miss/love/care about,not the one whom we give time when we have time.This is so true.Sometimes in the busy day,while you are the coffee machine smoking a cigarette or having a coffee or just when you have that 5 min break between lectures whom do you think about?On particularly gloomy days...for me,all those sad memories come running for me.Those stupid sad memories which I want to desperately forget but they won't leave me alone.Even some places or things remind you of those memories.Memories of your ex.After a breakup.How much a break up is painful is a too painful topic for me to write on.I prefer keeping that upto you.But then like what happens after death is a big question,so is what happens after a breakup.

Whether you get into another relationship,whether you are happy being single and hating those cheesy couples present on every corner of the street.... Are you still friends with your ex?is a question which remains.I think the answer to this is quite simple.If your relationship started with a great friendship and you were great friends and only because you got physically desperate and then into a relationship then chances of you remaining friends with your ex friend is higher.Some friends after breakup scenes are also possible if he/she happens to be your family friend or relative.Otherwise I don't think many of us are friends with our exs.Basically for me..a breakup would mean lots of hurt and a strong reason for a breakup involved.That is why friends with an ex would probably mean a bad idea for me.It would be like wearing that same old dirty underwear.Being friends would mean meeting at times,hell meeting on the same places where we went out on dates...and then controlling your feelings which you have overcome after such efforts would all go in vain.It would mean a rush of sorrow every time I saw him.It would mean trying and not kissing him or touching him accidentally.It would mean cursing my destiny and luck and retrospecting again n again as to why we did not make it.It would mean 100% of my mental strength,50% of water in my body and a good night's sleep would be wasted.
But one part of me also says that Yes,what if did not work out.Atleast I can see him once a month.Get to know what he is doing in life.Get a hug probably.My stupid little heart which is still crazy for him will do a salsa in the heart.I would think that probably..do we still have a chance?But the real problem starts when your ex is no more single and has moved on.You can be friends if you both are single.It would probably mean that you both still love each other.But if one is single and other is not,jealous,why not me feelings start to come in and its really disturbing.To the friendship,to your mind.Everything.And if you both are commited and friends..now that would need a great deal of maturity and understanding.It will be like unicorns,..everybody has heard about it.Nobody has ever felt it.

So exs are called exs for a reason.There are reasons why they are not in your life.It is very difficult for you to remain friends if you have not moved on enough.And sometimes this enough is not enough even for a lifetime.Heartbreaks are such.Love is that sweet poison.Happens.Are you friends with your ex?If you are...oh boy,you are like the lucky unicorns that,that your ex still cares about you even after a breakup.You have a true friend there.It means that you both were always ment to be in contact.Congratulations.Its a happy end to a relation.I wish all the relations had such endings,instead of all that awful,bloody hurt in the end.So friends with ex or no friends?You still talk?just talk or even meet?Tell me whats your story.

-Peace and love
Shalaka

Wordless Wednesday!!

Dearest Readers,
oops!No words today!

Thats all for today,see you tomorrow with our relationships and love themed posts where we have reached the what after breakup stage!I hope you all are with me.Good night! :)

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Why do breakups happen?

Dearest Readers,
Now that we will almost end our love themed posts,I thought of the recent breakup that my friend had gone through.Sometimes,how much ever hard you try to keep your relationship intact,things fall apart.Breakups happen everyday.They are like the carbon dioxide in the air.You can feel it everywhere.Everyday or at least every two days I see some around me,in my college,my best friend,the friend at the gym has either broken up completely or on the verge of it.Breakups are as natural as sex is!

Now somehow due to the constant occurrence of breakups here and there,I had to analyse this situation.WHY do breakups happen?In spite of two people giving those happily ever after promises to each other,after putting up such close selfies that one can't be cropped out.Now my logic and my theory on breakups is simple.Its actually what my best friend still keeps telling me.Breakups simply happen due to the lack of will from one of the parties.Quite simple to understand,right?Whatever might be the situation if that other person "CHANGES" you can't change a shit about the situation.If that other person gives up on you,stops liking you,feels that the relationship has gotten boring,you can't help yourself just by cursing the destiny.LACK OF WILL/INTEREST/LOVE.TICK.
Now second most common reason for breakups is cheating.Adultery.Going out with someone else.I hate this part of the story.I can't understand the theory where if you already in love with a person then how can you love someone else?If you fell in love with the 2nd person its obvious you didn't love the 1st.And in that case you should inform the first person about this.Talk it out with him/her while you are getting attracted.Work on your relationship.If everything else fails then and then only mutually breakup which will hurt less to the both of you.Leaving one party totally unaware ruins their life.At least think once about the person whom you loved so much.Inform what's wrong.SO CHEATING.TICK.
Long distance relationships.Now these are the most difficult and delicate type of relationships.I could literally do another post on it.But the long distance and the lack of communication,followed by series of misunderstanding is what leads to a breakup.LONG-DISTANCE.TICK.
PHYSICAL VIOLENCE or ABUSE.Enough said.If you are in such a type of relationship please I beg you don't do this to yourself and get out of it ASAP.
FORCED RELATIONSHIPS.These are the types of relationship you might have had in your school days.Due to peer pressure,or for the sake flaunting the fact that you have a gf/bf.Such relationships don't last and are born with no future.
CONSTANT DISAGREEMENTS.The fatigue that comes out of this is huge and thus is followed by cheating and results in breakups.
GOT NO FUTURE issue.This is the most common issue in India.Many couples commit suicide over the fact that their caste is not same.They believe,probably they know that they won't marry each other and thus they breakup instead of working things out,convincing parents,relatives or simply moving out of that place.I know probably things are not so simple but if they knew this issue was existing,why get in a relationship and hurt yourself so badly in the first place?

But what if everything was picture perfect?What if our family backgrounds matched?Your parents liked that person,you were childhood sweethearts,you had dated for 10 years,you were just made for each other AND then that person CHANGES and leaves you.Completely unaware.Right naked in the destiny's face.Then it is called as DESTINY for you.And this type of breakup is the worst.You have nowhere to run.You have a full fledged life in front of you and all of a sudden your dreams which you built around that person CRASH down.Like a house of cards.What if this is going to haunt you for the rest of your life?Welcome to the world my friend,welcome to the world once you were told about is the best thing to happen to you.

-Peace and love
Shalaka

How long will you last,Love!?

Dearest Readers,

today I happen to stumble upon this lovely song by Ellie Goulding.So sharing its lyrics with you.The music video is also satisfying.Do check it out.

How long will I love you
As long as stars are above you
And longer if I can

How long will I need you
As long as the seasons need to
Follow their plan

How long will I be with you
As long as the sea is bound to
Wash up on the sand

How long will I want you
As long as you want me to
And longer by far

How long will I hold you
As long as your father told you
As long as you can

How long will I give to you
As long as I live through you
However long you say

How long will I love you
As long as stars are above you
And longer if I may

How long will I love you
As long as stars are above you.

So really...I mean really do you know when will you have your true soul mate?if you have found him or her do you how long it is going to last?Is he or she "the soulmate"?or something is missing?Do you have any idea how will you meet THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE?or where will you meet!Do you know hows your life going to be taking a turn?Well no one knows.All we have in hand is to love unconditionally.Irrevocably.And with giving zero f#@(s to what the future is and its consequences.

So while letting yourself off this cliff... many a times... we are stuck...somewhere in between.Unable to decide whether to take the plunge or simply stay back safe.Staying back safe would mean crushing our heart and not letting yourself in love.Keeping yourself away from all that "drama" of a relationship.But taking the plunge may mean temporary happiness or permanent happiness,maybe a lifetime partner?or a lifetime scar.But the puzzle remains the same.How long will the love last?

Will it find you in the first place.Or will you go and grab and it?I told you yesterday about how to make your relationship long lasting.We gradually moved from crushes,to pillars of relationship and then this.Somehow this thought struck me today and I was suddenly scared.I was restless.Yes there are happy relationships,childhood sweethearts,people marrying at 60 but then what will happen if one fine day you end up single?And your relationship ends.Just like the beautiful dream of heaven.Of course like getting into a relationship takes time so does coming out of it.(If the breakup is not mutual.)

But just give it a thought.Even if your are not in a relationship,you will get married one day.What if your marriage ends?What if your partner leaves you.All of a sudden.In the middle of nowhere.Right on the street you met him.Without any further justifications.We all promise in the initial lovyy-duvyy days of relationship that I love you forever and after and we will stay together till death do us apart.But how often does this happen.Especially when you are in India with society hovering around your head.Is your partner really ready to fight with world as he promised sometime in the January of your relationship?WHAT IF LOVE,LEAVES YOUR LIFE?

-Peace n Love

Shalaka

10 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Long-lasting!

Dearest Readers,
How was your weekend?Mine was horrible.I was sick to my stomach yesterday and didn't even get up from the bed.I slept for flat 7 hours yesterday,didn't eat for 2 days(except an ice-cream)I feel sooo bad I broke my marathon.Last time I almost broke it,but had my luck but this time no such luck.Damn my body!OK.Sorry.Now that I am done cursing myself,lets get back to our love themed posts and begin with our post 11.
Often people who have completed more than say a 6 months in a relationship,tend to get bored.I have heard of many people who complain saying that they are bored in same routine of texting,meeting calling and roaming about.They say there is NO SPICE left in the relation.Now this boredom can be a result of continuous fights,someone more attractive or someones relationship seems more happier place to be,or simply lets say life gets boring and a routine is set.I have also seen people who break up after 5/6 years of relationship,due to just boredom.It maybe be mutual or not.There are counsellors just making many money out there to help people realise that they still are in love.This is sad.
So I came up with 10 ways to keep your relationship long-lasting.Whatever might be your age.And also your relationship's age.


1)1. Start doing things together. A lot of times especially in long-term relationships,we start to live our own lives,so to speak and do less and less things with our partners. Start doing activities together three to five times a week. Go for a walk, go for a bike ride or shop for and cook a meal together once a week. It will bring you closer and give you shared experiences to bond over.


2. Touch each other and do it often. Touch doesn't need to be sexual to draw us closer to our partner. Rub each others shoulders from time-to-time. Hold hands when you walk. When we touch each other, it helps us feel more connected with one another.


3.Spend time with other couples.Spending time with couples who have healthy relationships can be good for you. Look for couples who share your values and who have a strong relationship. It can help reinforce the importance of commitment and help remind you to keep the relationship exciting.


4.Send each other romantic messages.And make it a HABIT to say I love you,atleast once a day.


5.Buy each other random gifts on normal mundane weekdays.This helps you tell the opposite person that they are still important and cared about.


6.Listen a romantic song while sleeping.This helps to reciprocate feelings.Listen to the same song or dedicate each other different songs.See what works for you.


7.Greet One Another with Excitement.Changing small habits, such as the way you greet your partner when they get home, can be key to a lasting relationship. Greet your partner at the door with a hug and a kiss and express your joy at being together again. This can start things off on the right foot and set you on the path to reconnect after being apart.


8.Go out on small dates on every weekend and make a short road trip every month mandatory.Take turns to decide the destinations.This will help you in respecting each others choices.


9.Take your partner to your group of friends and flaunt him/her.This way your partner will feel wanted and won't leave you ever.


10.My personal touch-Mutually decide and stop contacting him/her for 3 days or 5 days.Absolute no contact.No messages,no calls,no see.Act like you are on a far deserted island.See how it feels.Analyse how much you miss that person.And trust me after these days...it will be like the 1st time you met.You will fall for that person again.And your relationship will take a new turn.


I first of all wish that no relationship ever has this boredom problem.And if at all it occurs,I hope you do the things mentioned above to solve your issues.But even if lack of love doesn't happen to you,you must do these things after a year is over.Just to make sure you both are in the same place.Just remember the reason you are with your partner and make him/her also realise it once in an often.Be in love always.And stay in love always is most important and difficult part of the story.ALL THE BEST!! ;)


-Peace and Love


Shalaka

More pillars and corners to a Relationship.

Dearest Readers,
What can I hide from you..I was very busy yesterday.Wait.I hate the word busy.I was doing my report work and then slept on the sofa itself.But this passion of writing you know it doesn't let you sleep.I woke up after an hour and remembered I had forgotten to post.I had the whole post outlined in my mind yesterday but sleep and fatigue overcame me.However I managed to write the jist of what the post was about.I didn't want to break this marathon.Yes.I did it.I didn't let my little lamp go off.This is also true love you know.Towards my writing and also you precious readers who are eagrely waiting for my posts.I don't like to disappoint you sweethearts.
So here is what I wanted to tell you yesterday.The basic elements for a successful relationship.I see many many relationships failing everyday.Trust me it hurts me.So much.All those tears,that hurt,those bad words and those awful situations and after effects of a breakup.Depression.Swollen eyes.Cut wrists.Lost vision and pale physic.All of it.It pinches my heart.So if you are in a relationship or ever intend to be you must make a tick mark on this checklist.

TRUST-Now trust means that you believe in that person 110%.I read a quote somewhere that if she loves you,you need not worry about who loves her.You can also put him here and I think what trust should be is summoned up in that line.The whole idea is a man may roam around on the road for the whole day but in the end he will come home.So be your gf/bf's home.Make sure they won't roam around much.
Now if they do you need to take in the 2nd point.

FUN/HUMOUR-Make sure your relationship has both these quotients in it.Lots of fun outings together,dates,common adventures,small road trips,long vacations.All of this.Include it in your relationship n I don't think your partner will need anyone or anthing else.Keep them busy and entertained with your love.Both of you.

RESPECT-This is a very important element of a relationship.Respect in all forms,respect to one's choices,nature,way of thought,hobbies,friends and also opinions.Shouting out in public,insulting each other in public,looking down upon your partner,constant quirky remarks,disrespecting his family is a complete no-no.Any barrier to individuality is a form of disrespect.Avoid it.

COMMUNICATION-Now this is an element which lacks in most of the relationships and that becomes the reason for cheating or breakup later on in life.Now communication means contacting the person whom you love atleast once in a day maybe via message or calls are more better or meet them very often.Make it most of the times in a week.Ask them about how was the day,did they eat,how do they feel.These things makes one feel loved and cared and thought about.This is very important.Communication with your partner's current mood,thought process is very important.To tell what you feel is what you should for better relationship.Never conceal or modify your true feelings in front of your partner.

SPACE-Most of the relationships in early days if they fail,fail due to lack of space and freedom in a relation.Give your partner some time.Alone,with friends,with family,with other important work than you.They will get back to you.Have patience.They do love you and are not going to fly away.But also make sure you are giving them space on the earth and not the entire universe's space.Don't let them feel ignored.

LOVE-Love is very important in a love relationship isn't it?Love as in that ultimate feeling for your partner.Liking his each n every part,accepting him,caring for him.Love is that feeling when you can't stop smiling at their messages,can't stop looking at them,and also can't stop thinking about them.You just love the person.He/she completes you.Make sure you are not in love with the idea of love.But in actual,irrevocable,unconditional love.

FRIENDSHIP-This is a must for a happy go lucky relationship.He must be your best friend.Someone around whom you can be yourself.Wear anything,say anything,behave the way you are.You need to change yourself.So friendship is a must for a relationship.

LOYALTY-Once you have choosen your partner try n make that person your life partner.Fights,abuses happen in all relationships.But don't give up on your loved one.You are with him for a reason.All that glitters is not gold.Don't run behind that brass.

Apart from this,control over anger,not bringing up money issues and not getting physically voilent is also an important virtue.So tell me...are you in a relationship?
If yes send the link of my blog to your partner and discuss whether you follow of these.If you have a crush send him the link too!He might just get a hit!;)
Have a LOVEly night folks!See you tomorrow.

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

The pillars of Relationship

Dearest Readers,
How are you?In love?Out of love?Single,taken or waiting for a miracle!However you might be,I have always something for you to make you think on different lines,other than your regular crap.So yesterday we spoke about our crushes.Now today we shift a stage ahead in life and go on to relationships.Basically,the definition of relationship is different for different people.Some people believe in long term love and call their companionship a relationship.Some people call their timepass as a relationship.Whatever might be your story,you have to accept that you are alteast dating if not relationship.
So according to me the basic footsteps of relationship are as follows
Trust.
Communication
Love
Control over anger
Most importantly- Friendship.
I will talk about these in detail tomorrow.
Have a great night.

Peace n Love
Shalaka

Crush at first sight?

Dearest Readers,
First of all,a very happy woman's day to all those sexy ladies out there!!Love yourself enough!
Today we begin with our love themed posts.So to begin with I remember Kuch Kuch Hota Hai's famous dialogue by SRK,"Pyaar dosti hai!"And trust me I never used to believe it.Actually my whole life can be divided into two phases one which says friendship and love are two different things completely and the other which says they are the two sides of the same coin.Earlier I had an idea of love wherein I believed that love=love at first sight.I would see a nice handsome guy walk down the road and fell head over heels for him.I stalked him on every social media platform and finally gave up when we had nothing in common.Love was when I saw SRK proposing his co star.Love was when my prince charming would come on a white horse with a ring.Bollywood spoils you actually.Your thinking and expectations.Even boys expect their crushes to appear in chiffon saris swaying in the air and with violins and all that blah.
However maturity and reality struck me hard...only to realise that white horse will be replaced by a bike and my man will be one of my close friends whom I see daily,trust him completely and someone who can be my best friend first.So as you grow over Bollywood phase you slowly realise its better to have your best friend as your boyfriend than to fall in that huge risk of love at first sight.Of course there are exceptions where maybe things work out between such people also.But I question the duration of their relationships.
So basically,Crushes.Some intelligent person has named the word right.Crush.Because they do crush your hearts.Admit it,we have been having crushes since 7th-8th grade.And how many of you are with your 1st crush tell me.So the thing about a crush is just like the love at first sight wala scene.You don't know that person well.Yet you experience this strange kind of attraction toward him or her.But in my opinion a crush is 75% based on looks.Thats what we find amusing about a person.Thats how we notice him or her.Then remaining 25% is personality,voice,general behaviour or some particular habit etc.
According to a study,56% of the attraction towards a crush dies within a week.I doubt how much will remain till the time you actually go and talk to that person,confirm if the feelings are reciprocated and finally you get into a relationship.Also,this love,this chasing your crush phase of life is very dangerous as it can be addictive and later heartbreaking.Love is a GAMBLE.It is like that board game where you try and hit the arrow in the centre.If you get it right you get lucky,if not with your arrow your general feelings about love go down.People who claim they don't love love are the results of unreciprocated love.One sided crushes.
So my whole point of the story is,having a crush is a fun thing and it actually helps you keep running in this mundane life.But if things get too serious and mind you these hearty matters are very delicate.It takes no time to fall seriously.And get hurt.You endup sometimes hating love,hating the other gender,hating the world,your beautiful body and what not.So if you have a crush in your life my friend,just make sure whether even you are his/her crush.Otherwise be prepared for a huge showdown or breakdown in life.A crush as the name suggests can crush you totally.Stay strong before you know "really taking the plunge".But I am not scaring you.You may take a risk but make sure its worth it.Lastly to conclude I would say look at that best friend of yours whom you have been friend zoning or that guy in group who really compliments you,or someone in your workplace whom comes and genuinely makes an effort to strike up a conversation with you.There are no real life Prince and Princess charming my friends.Your better half could be someone whom you have been ignoring.His or her looks might not be that great but he or she can make a great life partner.Shed your expectations.Shed your crushes.Its time to get real.Find out who loves you.Truly.And not just treats you as a crush which will fade over time.Love should last.Love should not crush.

Peace n Love
-Shalaka

Blog Marathon Post -7

Dearest Readers,
Its been a week of blogging and this marathon.Today marks the 7th day.Well this week we talked a lot about idhar udhar ki baate vagera vagera...Like from music to food to your own self.But now lets come to my favorite subject this week.LOVE.In all forms,of all types and of all sorts.We will think over many issues,many facts,many situations too.I hope you can relate.I wish I was doing this in the Valentine's week.But anyway..better late than never.Also I changed the background to hearts...cliche?Right?But love is all about letting that cupid strike you with an arrow!It is about roses and hearts and two beautiful dancing souls.
I hope you are interested,as this blog marathon is a huge task for me.I have to give it time irrespective of my bodily fatigue,busy schedule and running deadlines.And day by day it is getting tougher and tougher to maintain the creativity quotient.But I'm loving it.It is like challenging yourself to run that extra mile for burning those extra calories.

Tell me what would like to hear upon?Breakups?Fights?Or are you better of single?Or how to make your relationship blossom?Is your crush crushing you?Physical initimacy?Don't worry...we will cover all of this.Just try and stay tuned here daily.My baby loves to see you everyday..do you?So ready for falling in or out of love?LOVE.COMING TOMORROW.
Till then LOVE YOU GUYS for being with me through this wonderful journey that it is turning out to be.

Peace n Love
-Shalaka

Sundays are for Foodies!

Dearest Readers,
Sunday is always everyone's favourite day for obvious reasons.Its that day where boring food is replaced by something spicy.I am a very big foodie and food is my true love.So is for my family.We go out for dinners mostly on Sundays!So today we went to Krusty's.Its a nice restuarant near Karishma soc,kothrud,pune.It has great interiors and yellow wall colour with wooden furniture.It is a bit pocket pinching hotel but the food is totally worth it.The taste of the food reminds you of any of those London hotels which we see in movies.Italian pizzas taste truely Italian.So sharing some pictures with you.

So starting from above we had Italian margarita pizza,Macarons,Garlic bread with cheese,Tomato penne pasta,vegetarian pesto with basil,and my favourite Red Velvet Cake!

I will recommend this restuarant to all the vegetarian as well non veggs.Its a place where you can go to get a truely international cuisine feel.For all those of you who have a tongue for quality bread and food in general so get here asap.

Will blog more about the hotels in Pune which I have visited.Im sure you will like them all.But for that you will have to say tuned!!
Come back tomorrow!!

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

The Power of Songs.

Dearest Readers,
I hope you all are enjoying your weekend...at least relaxing yourselves.So today I came up with something we all can relate to.As the title says,The power of songs.
Music,in every form is beautiful.I have rarely seen a person who hates music.I think music is the get away from the harsh realities of life.Music is like the soul fuel which keeps you going on in life.It helps you survive.I have often come across people who listen to music if they are in hard times.Any type of music is my favourite music.I love all the types.Be it classical,be it jazz,rock,pop... from Michael Jackson to Lata Mangeshkar from Selena Gomez to Shreya Ghoshal.I recently attended her concert.(Will blog about my experience soon.)

Now music for me changes according to my moods.Actually I have a song for every mood!I have current favourites and oldies too.Here's a list of my favourites-
So if I am in a really romantic mood and it is raining and I really wish to kiss someone!;) then I hear Tumhi dekho na from Kabhi Alvida na Kehna or Pehla Nasha or Pee lu from Once upon a time in Mumbai or Suno na sangemarmar(which is a dedication to me),ye kaha ag gaye hum from Silsila featuring beautiful tulip gardens of the Netherlands.The old romantic favourites include do lafzo ki hai,dil ki kahani... which is amazingly shot in Venice.If I am feeling extremely sad I usually listen to emptiness by rohan rathod or tune jo na kaha from new york or what the heart wants by selena gomez or hello by adele and from the old collection musafir hu yaro and teri galiyo mai na rakhenge ke kadam and tanhai from dil chata hai and the unbeatable tadap tadap from hum dil de chuke sanam.If I am in a self obsessed mood I listen to taylor swift's out of the woods,or bad blood or shake it off or demi lovato's confident.If I am in a mood to dance Sapne mai milti hai,Mungda is my personal favourite.Wake me up at 5 am and I will dance on it.And Sara jamana also mithun's songs will do.
There is actually a list of many songs other than this,which includes kal ho na ho,jee le jara and also zinda from lootera and also numb by linkin park that I like to listen at any given point of time.My current favourites are Mohe Rang do laal and Ayyat from Bajirao mastani.Also there is rich marathi collection in my playlist including Katyar's songs,shravnat ghana nila,sanja ye gokuli,kehva tari pahate and many more lavnis also.
Basically,songs have an immense power.They transmit you to a whole different world.There are some lyrics which are perfectly designed for you.You feel that they describe your life or your situation perfectly.And you know something,some songs are so inspirational you might even get a solution for your problem or a way out.If you cry after listening to a song it helps you get over those emotions.Music is a God's gift to mankind.Same taste in Music attracts two people.

So plug in those earphones and let your play list begin!But before that tell me what are your favourites in the comments section or text me or wherever you feel like!Tell me which is your dear one and why?Does it bring back some memories to you?Does it expose that dark corner of your mind?Does it remind you of someone?Does it motivate you?Elevate you?Do you want to dedicate it to someone?

Peace n Love
-Shalaka

You,Yourself... Above all!

Dearest Readers,
The weekend is here!!And what are your plans!?Work,Family,Friends!?Or is it going to be just the both of you?I mean you and yourself.Thats all.
I think,it is very necessary to spend some quality time with yourself.And get to know what do you actually want!For that thing,you must respect yourself enough.Now all of you might be thinking that we already respect ourselves a lot..what do I exactly mean?Well I mean,often times are such that people say mean things to you,behave rudely with you,cheat on you and walk over your heart.We deal with this in numerous ways,like some people accept what has happened and accept that other party's demand,some people rep remand.However you might react you have troubled yourself in some way or other.We cry.We all do.Take those same swollen eyes to work next day.Some people also remain in their shells for days to come.But my question is WHY DO THIS TO YOURSELF?

In our childhood days,nobody tells us that there is very bad world waiting for us out there.To dwell on our innocent hearts.To murder its purity.Very goody pictures are put up about growing up.The truth is its a trap.You come across so many bad people that actually your goodness is affected.Nobody tells us that we will be hurt.And mind you brutally.And mind you by the person whom we love the most.But what to do next after getting hurt is what no one tells us.

The point I want to make here is we must keep ourselves our first priorities.Log kya kahenge or Duniya mujhe rulati hai should be a No-No.As I have said in my numerous posts before...keep your heart safe.In a box.And lock it up.And don't open it up for any stupid person.Mostly follow the golden rule that ignorance is a bliss.It might hurt at the start.Give yourself a brief moment and then don't even bother about it.Don't pay much of close attention to that hurtful person.He/She will hurt once twice but seeing that it doesn't affect you will affect them.People out there are filled with attitude and jealousy.They will curse you but as they say when an elephant walks on the streets.. dogs will bark.
Be selfish.But only about protecting your heart from any outer world sorrow that to from cheap human beings.Now this hurt can come from your family,your better half or your best friend.Try not to react much.Not every action deserves your reaction.Be free.Be happy.

I thought about writing this post because nobody ever told me this before that I was my ultimate own destination and that nobody matters beyond a certain level.I took everything too seriously.I always did and ended up spoiling my days n nights.Now I just endup with rolling eyes and a carefree attitude.
I hope you got the point.Now co'om wear your crown and f##k this world!
See you soon tomorrow!

Peace n Love
-Shalaka

A picture which touched my heart deeply-Blog marathon post no.3

Dearest Readers,
I hope all of you remember the wordless wednesdays I used to do before my blog's vacation. :P I know yesterday was a wednesday but today I came across an image which moved me totally.Deeply.Inside out.Because I had just came home from a nice dinner with my family in a nicer lavish restuarant.And then this is what I saw.

Zoom the picture for better results.This is so true.Reflects Rural India and also what is going around the globe.Often we are too busy to be grateful for simple joys in our lifes.Gratitude is the right attitude.

p.s- I know the mobile version of the blog is troublesome to read because of the bright background.I promise to work upon it this saturday.Till then plz tolerate.

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Forgive or Forget?

Dearest Readers,
Here I am.How was your day?Did you at least smile once?With true feelings in your heart?Good.
 Hmmm.... So today I would like to tell you something which happened a few days ago.I had an enemy.Ok.Everyone has one.A person whom you hate a lot.Who did something which hurt you terribly.Broke your heart in pieces.Often times are such and the world is so small,you somehow end up coming face to face with that person.Maybe say..after you have stopped talking to them a long time ago.You know that person was at complete fault.They know it too.No apologies were given or maybe if they were things took a sad turn and whatever was ended.
Now somehow this person comes in front of you and shouts from across the road..."HI!!!!!HOW ARE YOU?WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE"(technically we were on the road..what was I doing here...swimming probably.)I pretended that I couldn't hear her and I was praying to God that somehow the earth should swallow me.But no such luck.She just comes and starts talking you as if you met yesterday.Whatever happened in the past didn't even happen.When on the other hand...all I could think was how she had made my mother cry.She comes,she waves,she talks and talks...and I end up giving a few nods,and nos and excuse of leaving early.This was incident no.1.My bad luck,she crossed my path many times and started talking as if we two were the same old besties that we were.But for me things had changed.I wasn't feeling the same about her.But she was persistent to talk to me.I always felt,was she really that shameless to come back to same plate we ate together in and then she peed on it!Or was she really missing me and was apologetic about what had happened and wanted me back in her life.I could not make out the difference.She had lost my trust.Even behind that simple hello,I was searching for her good or bad intentions.
But after that 5th encounter,I don't know whether its my forgiving nature or my pure soul but I could tolerate her.Slowly I also started talking to her and giving a less fake smile.She has not said a sorry till date.But she behaves as if nothing happened.Even I am confused as to what should I do?Should I let go and feel free and wander around as if nothing happened?Or should I go n slap her asking her to give me and my mom a f##king apology?
Usually,I am a person who does keep things in mind.Good or bad.I keep a record of every small thing.I don't know if it is good or bad,but I tend to do.After talking to lot of common friends of mine all of them told me to leave that topic.Even the group was suffering because of our lack of communication.So I guess I have given up.On that grudge.On the fact that she left me alone.Crying.When I had no one.How she made false allegation.I have just given up.Fact is even I have missed her.But I guess the hurt and your ego empowers your feelings about friendship.The best relationship in the world.I have decided not to show any hate towards her especially when she has taken the initiative to talk.Ofcourse I am no God to forgive completely.Nor have I forgotten what she did.But just to ease that stupid burden from my life,I have started giving her a smile and a few formal hellos.You know what my dearest readers,my late granny used to tell me a story that there was a very emotional man who used to get hurt easily and got angry quickly.So his friend told him to take a stone and put it in a bag everytime he was feeling low about a person.At the end of the month he had a sack full of stones and carried it everywhere.Those stones,those grudges were becoming a load for him.So he threw stone by stone in the river and forgave the people who played with his heart.He was feeling much lighter by the end of another month.So this is what anger and ill feelings and jealousy does this to you my friends.It overloads you.That a##h##e person is still living around happily even after what they did to you.You are one who has this load of memories and hurt and blah.
So just throw all your stones of ill feelings in the river.Forget first.And then forgive.And then simply move on.From that part of your life.I know its easy to say but not to follow.But trust me.Its not as difficult as you think.I have applied this to not one but many idiots of my life.I am not saying that forgive that person and start talking as you did but just let go from your side.Don't think about it.That person may not give a sorry,may not come back to you but if she/he does just tell him/her..things won't go back to way they were but I forgive you.Make yourself higher.

Unfortunately,in this bad bad world outside some or the other person has hurt us.Wrecked us.Destroyed our hearts.But its time you fly higher than these things.If you have someone like this,message that person today itself,even if they have broken contact with you that I won't think about you even in my wildest dreams.Have a great life ahead.And if someone has apologised to you(lucky you) resort to formal hellos.Just let go.Be free inside.Life is short.
Forgive.It also takes courage.Are you ready for it?

Peace n Love
-Shalaka

After the cloudy days...And The Blog Marathon!

After the cloudy days,
comes the sun shining out
& makes the atmosphere bright in many ways.

The tears fallen on earth dry up,
The gloomy weather smiles back again.
The hiding birds of joy begin to fly.
And the girl in the woods,comes back home
unafraid,nothing gone in vain.

Standing in the wet,unsympathetic rain
she feels so alone,she feels so lost.
Missing her nice sunny summer days
in pure pain.

She is still horrified by the harsh lashes n throws of cold water,
Yet she walked the muddy,slushy,dirt filled path of the forest
Not affecting her inner strength,this external deep clutter.

She tried to hide,she tried to run,
But the cloudy days just won't leave her;as if someone making her fun.
Sick,sour,drenched she decided to just stop and wait until He,The God was done.
She stood thick and firm like the roots of the banyan tree
Till the clouds,rain,thunder just like dampness,thrust,hunger left her.

She stood still in the forest,suffering all that was offered on her plate.
This wasn't her destination forever,she realised a bit too late.
Only patience & time would be her best friends she knew.
After the cloudy days,happiness was definitely in her queue.

Her luck was bad,the patch was rough,
Blaming the forest was not enough.
And after the cloudy days,
comes the sun shining out
& makes the atmosphere bright in many ways.

She knew,she felt,she had this intuition,
that these days would return.
But now she was prepared with experience for any harm,with caution.
Because times which hurt the most are the first ones
Because days which die with tears are the awful destiny's sons.
Now,she is married to Hope,that girl in the forest,made him her husband.
And thus she was ready once again for those cloudy days.

Dearest Readers,
How have you all been?I interacted with you more than two months before.OK.2 months and 21 days.I know I owe you all,this baby blog of mine and also myself,a BIG,BIG apology for this sheer negligence.I did not write.I simply did not.And to be honest I don't even know why.Many of you who have been my regular readers,asked me now and again as to why I stopped.I just used to say I have not stopped,I am on a writer's block and my blog has gone for a vacation.But turns out the vacation just turned out to be a bit toooo long.Almost like I had disowned this section of my brain.I didn't write because I did not feel like.Sometimes after the block was gone I had a few topics in mind but I gave myself the excuse of lack of time and didn't bother to actually get up,n get typing on the laptop.Then came many excuses of exam,tiredness and so on.So it was just like turning the pages of a book without reading it.But the real reason or my kind off valid excuse for not writing was that I was not happy inside.And I always wanted my blog to be a happy space.If I wrote on those cloudy days..only black mud would have come out.I wanted time.To heal,to move on actually,to start afresh,to sort myself out so that this space does not end up becoming a dustbin of scrapped out,temporary,awful emotions.
            And let me be honest with you guys,this extraction of myself from my inner self or blog writing has really helped me to get a bird's eye view.I can see things more clearly now.I have matured in thoughts,which will reflect my writing.Such kind of too long vacations are needed to give yourself the final call.But such should not be needed very often.These phases of life are not a very good space to be in.You know sometimes in life you need that final push,that final call,that final blow which makes or breaks things.You just come out of it as a totally different and almost always a better,improvised version of yourself.So I guess this was that for me.
              So starting from today I will blog daily!!I will be doing a blog marathon.For all those of you who don't know what a blog marathon is..I will be blogging for continuous 30 days.Yes!!A month.Everyday without fail.Something new.I take it as a punishment for those 2 months of extra large vacation.Fair enough?Sooo,the blog marathon starts today itself at the beginning of march.Even if I have an exam,am too tired..nothing and no excuses will be entertained.It will be like a strict diet plan.Pretty cool ya?Actually,I am tooo excited for this.This is a very difficult challenge and I of course don't want you people to get bored in the middle.So innovation is the key point.I have the most classic,romantic,controversial,thought provoking topics lined up.(Yes I have a list)Also some of them will be spontaneous too!If you want me to write on something,say a particular topic,feel free to suggest,comment,message,mail me!I'll try my level best.N lastly,thank you all those of you who messaged me asking what was wrong with me.You guys told me you missed this happy space.Thank you so much,really means a lot to me.My writing is missed is the greatest compliment I can have.I promise this time I won't disappoint you.THANKS A TON FOR ALL THE UNDERSTANDING AND CONSTANT MOTIVATION.I love you all!

I'll be here tomorrow..You will come,won't you?!With something new and interesting.Till then take care and have a good night! :-) :-*

Peace n Love
-Shalaka