CHANGE.

Dearest Readers,
A big big hello to you all!!!I know I'm late.But I'm so so sorry...I was figuring out a few things.
We will come to that!So...Hows the new outlook?Liked it?Not much?Let me know....
I thought as my baby was a month a old...I should give it a new look and feel! :-D

Its changed now.Its a month mature...N this got me thinking about CHANGE.This word is so common that we use it every now and then.So how much is a change necessary?What does a change necessarily mean?What changes-people,time,priorities?and many such questions remain which are left unasked and unanswered.

Through my glasses,Change is a necessity today.One should change according to time and places.
One should change if the person standing in front of you has changed,AND not try to change him/her back to the original copy of themselves.Sometimes there are many reasons for them to change and the other times are when there is no reason for a change.People think changing anything about yourself is bad.Its not so.Many people are even afraid to change at all.But Change is a good thing infact.You should change.NOW. n I'll tell you how.

First of all understand change can bring you happiness...Mental peace.So you can change yourself in any of the following ways-
CHANGE YOUR LOOK- ;-)Interesting right?GO you lazy bum,walk to the nearest parlour and get yourself a new and fresh look.Cut off that hair or give it a shape.Do your manicure,pedicure(my male friends can also do this.)Trust me you'll come out looking sexy and confident.Co'om even you deserve some pampering.


CHANGE YOUR WARDROBE-yeessss.... This becomes the most interesting part of the story.You get to go shopping!!!Buy new shirts,jeans,wallet,bag,shoes,glares,perfumes..whatever you like.Even if the quantity is small.You will feel happy and content.
So basically I want to prove you guys that change can bring trueeeee happinessss!!:-D


CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE-Now this is the difficult part I know.AND NO LECTURES ON THIS POINT.But just that if you are doing some completions,catching some deadlines..just do it with Smartwork.. and Don't crib and cry about it.Try and enjoy whatever you are doing.


CHANGE YOUR OUTLOOK-Now this is the actual thing I have done to me this week and it took me some time but I have implemented it and it works!!!The inspiration was Insta.
Instagram's "thegoodquote.co" says something like this - "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to CHANGE the world,Today I'm wise so I'm changing myself." SO TRUE na?
We are irritated by numerous people everyday...by the things people do,their nature,their stupidities,their ignorance n etc etc etc.So what I understood by this quote was that you should actually let people be the way they are.They won't change anyway.But you will end up feeling stupid and unattended and hurt if you try to change them.So why not let destiny and karma decide what should be done with them?Just let go.I know you try to change the people whom you love,care..but what if they don't want to?Your job is to tell once,twice,thrice..but what after that.NO.Pull back yourself.Same goes with people who are already CHANGED and behaving weirdly.Leave them too.Give them their "so-called" SPACE and let them change the way they want.What you change is yourself.Because that is waaaaaaaay easier.Change your feelings for such people and act numb and unaffected.

People try to pull you down,you react..they are happy.Instead CHANGE yourself and understand that they are built that way.You can't help it.Let them be.But now that you remain unaffected and have understood their mentality you are at peace.Same goes for people who hurt you,make you angry,and blah.

So by changing all the above things about yourself you will be the most happiest person on earth.Seriously try them.I did.I'm speaking out of sheer experience of these 3-4 days.Let nothing affect you.Change yourself for a happier,better,and improved version of yourself.Download the UPDATE of yourself now.Keep little things little.N Stay Strong and Stay Blessed!!

Are you clever or wise?

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

A Thank you post!

My dear,dear,dear readers,
I am extremely happy,proud,full of joy and excitement and also a bit teary eyed because...my baby..this blog has completed one tiny twiny but successful month!!!!!
Yeyeyyeyeyey.... *drum rolls**trumpets*balloons,confetti...cakes n what not!!!!
I call it successful because it has reached a whooping amount of 1772 oops... 1773 page views.. 32 comments... n 19 international audience..including 17 from USA and 2 from Malaysia!! :)So elated.. never thought it would reach this peak of glory.But of course there is more to come...Its just the start and as they say well begun is half done.

I still remember a month back...I wasn't sure of whether I should take the plunge or not...But I decided to follow my dreams and heart as they say and here as I look back... 19 posts out of 30 days seems like a good start to me.Of course I'm going to keep my promise of posting almost daily and only when I have something genuine to say.And also to keep you all entertained and not bore you at any point of time.I have truly loved this activity of blogging my heart out to you..and I hope you all must have enjoyed too.I sincerely thank all of you for your wonderful support in such huge amounts.Thank you so so much for reading my mind and letting me know every time how I did.I really love you all.. truly and deeply.Today don't know how but I'm short of words and more in awe looking at this baby of mine whose a month old now.

I would like to mention a few names who read each n every post of mine and are my blog's true besties.So a BIG THANK YOU TO-
Vaibhav,Smita,Tanmai,Kirti,Saket,Pranav,Rajhans,Akshay,Sanika,Bhavana maushi,Chinmay,Kalpesh,Karan,Kaustubh,Mandar,Meghraj,Omkar,Prarthana,Priya,Rutuja,Rucha,Sanyogeeta,Sonal and many more of you.Excuse me n MSG me if I missed out some names.I Thank you all from the bottom of my heart.All of you out there reading this.

Reviewing myself..,I think I still haven't been able to write the best post...I'm going to try...n keep trying n your comments will help me go further.Lastly I request you all to keep spreading the word about my blog.Tell your friends,family and all those whom you can.Keep sharing.

Again Thank you so much everybody for your support!n please keep the same throughout...!!!

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

What is better... seriousness or timepass?

Dearest Readers,
First of all wishing you a very happy and prosperous ganesh chaturthi n the whole of ganesh festival.
Many of you messaged me and asked me about why there was no post yesterday.The reason is I'm not much elated at the thought of festivals... which I will be blogging about later.

So today as a friend of mine n I was talking about relationships..we came across a surprising analysis.It concluded that most couples who were not serious with each other...were happier than the couples who were serious.Here non seriousness for us meant that it was casual dating,hanging out,f**k buddies and overall whatever we refer as "Timepass".Meaning No Intention of marriage or kids or a future together.Temporary bullshit from my point of view.But later on I also agreed with her that these people were indeed happier than the ones who dreamt of marriage,kids,and growing old together.

Is this really true?
Looking at my friends and friends of friends... it does seem like people who are just chilling with each other are enjoying their lives in each n every sense.Reason.They fight rarely because nothing bothers them much...they accept the way their partner is because they know they won't be living with him/her forever.
Some comparisons I can put up-
S is serious wale relations and Cd is casual daters.
So it happens this way that:-
Bf/gf is smoking.
S-"Why do you have to smoke at all...You will die one day.What will our kids do without you."
Cd-"Baby...pass me the ciggi na!"
See.. no fights in Cd at all..Peace.

Bf/gf does not text on time.
S-"Where were you...what took you so long..what were you doing????"
Cd-"Baby mekko treat chahiye tune late reply kiya isliye."
Poor serious gf/bf is worried about you n this ends up in a fight as to why she or he asked sooo many questions.

Bf/gf is depressed.
S-"You should be more responsible na baccha.. listen to your mom..do this n that...blah."
Cd-"Chill baby.. you want a kissi?"
Poor serious gf/bf tried to go into the root cause n this ended up in a fight were gf or bf shouted saying "You always blame me!!!"

I can give you numerous other incidences where you will find that not being serious was way helpful than really caring about the person in front of you.It really avoids fights,clashes n shit.All you have to do is sit in your bf's lavish car,drive along...ENJOY your day n then forget about him/her until the next time you meet.But personally I'm against this.Because I feel this is not LOVE.Love is to tell each others mistakes,where he she is going wrong.To correct them.To shout on them.To make sure they walk on correct path,be with right people.Caring and loving is what goes in the long term.Not just the TIMEPASS done with them or the ENJOYment.

Such type of enjoyment can be done by anyone and everyone..It takes guts,courage and the will to make a relationship work by being serious about it.So what are you?On which side are you?Are you thinking long term or just chilling?Are you that strong enough for a relationship?

-Peace n love
Shalaka

Wordless Wednesday!

Dearest Readers,

Like every Wednesday,this is my post for wordless Wednesday!Liked it?Not that good?whatever you feel...let me know.. :)

Reminds me of my village n my family over there!:)

-Peace n love

Shalaka

Are you feeling Lonely?

Dearest Blog,
I'm tremendously sorry about not keeping my promise to post daily.I really feel sad and helpless.I was working on the dance which my group rocked yesterday and there are no gains without pain.I used to get completely exhausted by the time I reached a source of internet and as per half of the promise to you and the readers,I would never post anything just for the sake of it.I will never write anything that has not come out of my heart.So my apologies.N here we begin again by the new promise of posting genuinely.
NOW
Dearest Readers,
Its the weekend again.. so what are your plans?Actually,weekends are not that happening as they are portrayed in movies and books.Weekends mostly constitute of cleaning,washing n sleeping the whole week's share.
This particular weekend I am feeling a bit down.A bit not-the-usual-jolly-me.Depressed?NO.Suicidal?NOT AT ALL.Just plain Sad?Yes probably.And lonely.Oh yes.

At some point or the other in a week or in a day or mostly evenings or surely at night between 12am-2am we all tend to feel lonely.Loneliness can come out of many a things combined.Its maybe because you are missing your parents if you are away from them or maybe its someone else.
As I was researching for this post I found that lots n lots of research has been done on this topic.People have written international papers too!Astonishing right?So it means that 3 out of every 10 people in the world are going through the same emotion as you n currently me are!This actually made me feel better because I wasn't the only one who was feeling lonely. :D
So coming back.. another cause of loneliness is rejection.From anyone.Need not be your crush... it maybe your professor,colleague,your maid :D basically anyone who said a NO to you in your face.Loneliness also comes from constant fights,disrespect,lack of attention towards you and your opinions,ignorance and lastly being surrounded by individuals having way different tastes of everything from you.

Lonely feeling comes and stays for long I feel.But we need to find out its cause as soon as possible.Like love,even this feeling is a slow poison.If you allow it to stay long with you it really enters your heart n brain damaging the whole system n then even if your life is perfect you feel that it is raining only on you n start criticising,nagging,cribbing about smallest of things.You make yourself REAL lonely and start believing that you have some major issues in your life.Never do that.

I was feeling lonely till the previous moment but then these are the things I do to fight back this little monster.
1)Take a reality check of how lonely you are really!
You have your parents and one true friend with you-Not lonely at all.
You have only your parents with you-No.Not lonely yet.
You don't have your parent's support + no true friend-Watch the company you keep and your behaviour too.Maybe a bit lonely.
2)EAT.n by eat I mean everything.The one who will call you fat.Eat them too.Biryani,Pizza,Chicken,Chocolate,Ice-cream,Chinese..anything you like.Get out of the house now.Go.You have my full permission.
3)Meet up or call a real supporter or a fan of yours.(The ones that give you an ego boost.You know they lie but today its ok.You need a dose.)
4)Take rest n sleep for flat 4-5 hours.This does help.A lot.You can wake up sorted.
5)And of course which everyone of us does.Earphones on and bring on the Tomorrowland or trance or whatever is your cup of tea.Or watch a movie.

I did all of this.N here I am again cheerful and happy and ready to take on life.Bring it on baby!!
Have a great Sunday ahead!n Stay Strong.My blog and me are with you! *Kisssesss*

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

A Book Review and a Movie review for you!


Dearest Readers,
How did your week start off?Monday blues!?Tired n needing a vacation already?Well,similar is my case.The weekend kept me quite occupied.I attended a book launch and saw a movie too! ;)
The book that got launched was "You're trending in my dreams" by Sudeep Nagarkar.He is the author of 5 national best sellers and the 6th one is on its way.He writes in a pretty simple style making the youth his audience.His books are more related to real life,friendships and relationships.


So my thoughts on the book-(Your's can differ completely)The story revolves around 4 friends-Garima,Varun,Malvika,Ahana.
Ahana is a very strong headed woman and is weaved in such a way that she represents today's strong woman.They all live in a flat in Mumbai and the fun continues unless and until one message arrives which changes their life.Sudeep has touched on many issues like child abuse,leaking of papers,father son relationship n a lot more.
All n all the book is good for one time read but there are many patches where in you get bored.Also the book is based only in Mumbai and no other cities are described.The length of the book is small therefore making it seem like a CID episode.Also the title is irrelevant. I liked his earlier books much more.There is nothing special in the story.
But do read this book as you should read Indian fiction and it does have a romantic scene which is quite seducing! ;)Order it on Flipkart or Amazon or go buy it in your nearest crossword stores.DO NOT ENCOURAGE PIRACY BY BUYING ROAD SIDE BOOKS.


Now guess the movie I saw.Well it was Welcome Back!I was dying to watch it because the 1st part still has me in splits whenever I watch it.So was kinda hoping the same this time.
The caste is ofcourse *Refer the poster*.The film is really good..against the people who are complaining so much.Anil kapoor and Nana make you laugh a lot of times and help you keeping engrossed in the movie.Apart from that John's action scenes are amazing.Shruti Hassan has done a lip surgery.Thats all I want to say because I couldn't see her acting.Also she needs a Vicks ki goli because her voice is so coarse.Paresh Rawal  is wonderful as usual and others are unnecessary.The 2nd part is boring and end is illogical.The songs make you go to sleep.But ofcourse they have managed to keep a few scenes excellent with respect to timing,comedy and emotional scenes too.
All n all one time watch.You will have a good laugh.
2.5/5 from me.


So here I have given you a few ideas for your weekend or if you wish to take an in between weekday off.Laugh out loud.Or.Read n Ponder.Your choice.

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Uncomplicating People.

Dearest Readers,
Often it happens with us that we don't understand the behaviour of others.Towards us,towards society or anything for that matter.We just sum it up saying that the person is "complicated".We fail to understand people,personalities and their intention.

Yesterday we had our industrial visit to various places.The intention was ofcourse that the students should enjoy TOGETHER and get an idea about the industrial environment.Leave the later part but people take the meaning of enjoy together as enjoy together in groups,subgroups and individuals with their eyephones on and people who aren't interested in anything.(Attendance probably or their parents kicked them out of their houses).


I always wonder,why do people do this to themselves,to the people around them?If you are plainly not interested in anything stay at home.Why do you have to come in the first place.. to show the world you that you are doing a favour on them?I simply fail to understand the mob mentality.Well people who are interested are so small in number that they almost disappear in the crowd.Showing lack of interest discourages the crowd and makes the whole atmosphere dull.I call such people diffusers.They take away the light in everything.They are disappointed by each and everything.They suck out life in you and leave you unfulfilled.These people are complicated,unsolvable,irritating and also they themselves cannot provide any justification on why they behave in a certain manner.



People are complicated maybe because they have some serious complicated things going on in their life or maybe because they are angry on the world for rewarding them with some injustice.Or they might be born that way or they might have changed after an event in their life or they are insecure about something or plainly they are hungry!(So if you find any more reasons...please mention in the comments box. :D)

So finally accepting that certain people are built in a certain way.. what do people around them do?
Me?I ignore such people and don't let them in my happy zone.Thats the best possible way.You can also try and change these diffusers.(my advice-DO NOT.)You also can enquire about the reason they are this way.Maybe they will be able to explain their struggle and you will understand why they are Complicated.Or plainly move on with your life.But if you yourself are one of the candle blowers..if you know what I meant here..then please my darling...stop it right now.Analyize whether you are causing trouble to the people around you?Are you being ignored?Are you really at fault?If yes,its time to sort yourself out my friend.See what is bothering you and don't make the weather around you gloomy.


Laugh and Enjoy when you are supposed to.Be sad and sit and cry when you are in real need of it.Ponder over yourself.Think twice.But most importantly LIVE AND LET LIVE.And LOVE.Life is really short,cut out this complication of yours well in advance before it consumes you completely.

Don't be a diffuser and stay away from one.SMILEEEE..., :)


-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Wordless Wednesday.

Presenting before you a Special Rajasthani Thali from the famous chain of restaurants "Rajdhani".Had a sumptuous meal which was a surprise from special someone.So full..

Goodnight folks!

-Peace n Love
Shalaka