My Lotus Collage!

Dearest Readers,
How are you all!December treating you good,right?Lately I re-read a few of my posts n found out that I was getting a bit preachy.As in I don't want to sound like a 60 yr old grandma..giving all life advices n no fun!But let me tell you,all that I pour out here has come from the bottom of my heart and is true to the core.And the rest are my personal experiences about life and people.
Also lately I have been experiencing a partial writer's block.I don't know what to write and when I know I think I sound a bit Saint types.I don't want that.I don't want my blog to be "Astha channel"(a channel where only religious programs are shown.)Nobody needs a bhajan these days or a kirtan.. all we need is a loving hand,a carrying on shoulder and a best friend.I want to be your best friend. :)
Again also,lately I have been a bit sad n sick too.One does not feel like working on one's passion if nothing is going their ways.But I found out a quick fix for this.What if I could not think n write anything...My 2nd love after writing is ART.Making creative objects out of waste,redecorating my room,making articles out of anything and pouring life into them by colouring them.
So I made something like this.All I needed was old paper from the ganpati decoration leftover material,last night's ice cream stick,scissors,glue,a few paints,n stickers.You could buy the things easily at a stationary shop near you or most of the things you must be having at a near hand.(Only if you took the trouble to clean your cupboard).Now all I did was arrange n cut the left over paper into a lotus flower.The next thing I did was I selected my best pictures from my gallery..Now having a colour printer at home does have advantages.So I printed my pictures,pasted them on the lotus and wrote messages on them like "STAY STRONG" n also stuck some readymade stickers.And boom!!!I had a lovely piece for my room door.You can even gift this to you friend on their bday.Or you can have your own variation of flowers,star,smiley face...anything and everything you can think off.I am so sure your friend will love it as it will have a personal touch.Instead of pics you can also go for simple messages or your life goals which you want to see daily.


So go ahead,don't just waste your time sleeping,you sleepy bum!Wake up n be creative.Clean your room to find new interesting stuff you can work with!Don't waste your vacation!So tell me hows my lotus collage n make yours soon!N let me know...I'll put up a picture here.
Till then,stay warm n stay strong!


-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Hello December!

Dearest Readers,
Hello blog,and Hello December!!!
So folks,how have you all been?I know I haven't posted for a while but it was of course due to the stupid exams.I don't like to write half heartily and thus I refrain from posting unnecessarily.But then when you get numerous soul calls from your blog,you have to make sure you answer those.The poor fellow calls you out like a little baby waiting for its mother's attention or a possessive boyfriend waiting for you to answer his call.Such is the power of passion.My passion for my writing.It demands you continuously.It doesn't let you sleep or eat.Its like a continuous alarm without snooze option.
So as the page of calendar flipped and my cellphone beeped and the sudden urge for a warmer blanket increased...I actually could not believe it is already December guys.December..really?The last month of the year.I can still fly back to January where I was already 20,and yet had not been able to figure out a single thing about my life.I was so unsure of where I was headed that it almost felt like I was walking in a dark room with nothing but vacuum.Still surprised I guess but now I am pretty much sorted.I have already ticked out a few things off my "To Do Things in Life" check-list,like starting this blog,a trip to Goa n many more things.As for me I have set my focus.I know what I want from life.Of course not everything has been finalised,but yes- "Manzil tay hai,bus ab rasta banana hai,dhundna hai or us par chalna hai." There goes a famous saying that day by day nothing changes but when we look back everything seems to have changed.So true isn't it?
     Sounds like a new year or 31st December post right?Well... Maybe so.But I want to urge all of you out there reading this,that no age is right age and no age is not right,to decide "ki kya karna hai"(Apologies for quoting Honey Singh)But yes,now is the true time for all of us in the age group of 20-25 to decide what all things we want to do ahead in life.Should some thing be started right now?Should some decisions be taken now itself?Should you still waste your parents money?Is your career path right?Do you want to go some other way!Do you want to leave the country?When?How?What n why.. n my personal favourite question for you- Whenz marriage n kids happening?happening or not? ;)

So its never late for anything my babies...Have your life set in advance.A few steps of planning won't hurt you.As it is we keep wasting time thinking on things that would never happen..but what about those which actually should happen?Are you prepared?Start saving,start thinking.Start pondering as to what exactly enthrals you,amazes you,interests you.What's your passion? Can it be turned into a career.2015 is about to say a bye...Make this bye a memorable one.Literally grow up and mature.Bloom.Find your cup of tea n your personal favourite flavour.

Till then keeping reading my posts!
Would blog often now.
Adios!Cya!

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Dearest Readers,

Sending you all... the lanterns which will light your life,the sweet ladoos which make you fatter and sweeter and the Diyas which I painted and decorated to light up the path of your life.Wishing all of you a very very Happy,Safe,n Prosperous Diwali.May God bless us all and shower us all with lots of love,happiness,peace n success.

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

The Butterfly with a Broken Wing

Dearest Readers,
Today I was actually going to do a Wordless Wednesday post but the picture I have posted below made me think a thousand things.
The picture is obviously of a butterfly.It is so beautiful and unique.Its my favourite blue.AND if you notice its left wing it is kind off broken.

This struck me hard.I saw that butterfly and it sat patiently on the leaf and later flew away.With the same broken wing.N mind you it flew high.Very high.That broken wing did not affect it much.Rather I think it must have forgotten about that disability it had.I saw myself in that butterfly and look carefully.You will too.We all are like that butterfly.Some part of us is broken,torn apart,lost in a battle,snatched away from us or just plainly shattered. Isn't it?We all have fought some battle or the other by now.Some battles we have lost,some won.Some have left scars on our minds,souls and left wrists too.If you know what I mean.But in the end whatever might happen you still are surviving today.You are alive from your struggle.Congratulations!!
Because you did not die or give up.You have the strength and courage to still fight if your battle is not over and you fight everyday.Maybe a battle with your inner demons,with the society norms and taboos,with your friends,parents,lovers..anyone for that matter.You do fight.And you do survive.Whether a loss or a win.You are powerful enough to fly everyday like that butterfly.

Friends,it maybe painful for you to come out of your grief or a struggle if you are facing one.But let me tell you and trust me,it is not impossible.God has blessed us all with the power of self healing and we are powerful enough to bounce back.In fact I believe in the fact that He will not throw anything at you which you cannot handle.Like this butterfly,even you can fly high without even taking into consideration what happened in your past,or what might come in the future.So carry your nasty scars,bad memories,sad demises with grace and through faith.Let nothing stop you from achieving whatever you desire.Let life,luck and God be with you through your journey.

So fly high and higher even if you are the butterfly with a broken wing!

-Peace n love
Shalaka

I don't.

Dearest Readers,
sharing with you a poem I had written a few months back,before starting the blog.


I don't allow my mind to think about you n sway..
coz I never know when I'll fall off the steep creepy edge near the bay.
I don't allow myself to catch that fluttering butterfly,...
I fear of losing it to the sky.
I don't allow myself to dream...n dance about,feeling gay
coz on the floor with a broken heart I might just lay.
I don't allow myself to be that extra happy n joyous..
I'm just too afraid of its end,n this is obvious.
I don't want to get up from my new formed comfort zone.,
love,affection,care,trust,are the ones I have too much shown.
I don't want you,I don't want this n I don't want that too..
my life is not that perfect shoe.
I don't want to bother,I don't want to share...
this is how I've become... at small things I suddenly flare.
I don't.I just don't.

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Pyaar ka Punchnama2-A movie review!

Dearest Readers,
You all must have heard about this movie and also the controversy behind it and the cliche fight whether girls are right or boys.So if you need an answer,PKP2 is the perfect movie for you.Many girls are angry on this particular movie but I guess the anger is out of guilt.

So here's presenting before you the review of the movie.
Basically if you get offended easily,girls especially...do not watch this movie.It pin points the exact mistakes of where actually we girls go wrong.Of course in a relationship.All the 3 girls portrayed in the movie either treat their boyfriends as ATMs,Fancy dolls to show off,Drivers or servants or plainly idiots just to have timepass with.This is so not right and almost 75% of the girls feel that their bfs are dogs!Such is the truth.Majority of women represent the girls which are shown in the movie.But let me tell you not every girl is the PKP2 wali girlfriend.Now let me be more clear.
Girls expect expensive gifts every now and then and all the time of their bfs.Which is one of the reason of frustration among guys.They call you up every now n then to enquire about your whereabouts and they don't like your friends at all!I read your mind right guys?;) Girls fuss over small things,constantly nag you and they are always behind your ass.Now one girl in the movie(chiku) has this another problem of her best friend and also girl best friends who interfere too much in her life and are the reason for her breakup.She listens to them is her fault.Girls get influenced easily...right?N then there is this coward bitch who refuses to marry the guy in the end and betrays him.And then the other who uses her bf for money.Sadly such are many,many girls out there.Traitors,n users.Hush.Now the case with girls is just like how we think Indian police are.Corrupt.But not all officers are like that.Are they?Same is with girls.Most girls are the ones shown in the movie.Dumb.But not all,right?
The girl's side of the story is somewhat like this that they do expect gifts but I think expecting them always and without they giving you something is unjustified.And we girls are seriously worried about you and don't want you to be in some mess.That is why we call you up.But overdoing it.Every hour 3 times is too much.And the ones who are behind your ass for good things is okay.You guys do need a push.But pushing you off the cliff is too much.Now how real life chikus should do it is keep your best friend in limits.Most likely he likes you so maybe your bf is correct about him.Maintain safe distance.And lastly all those girls OR GUYS who ditch their partners for caste,creed,nationality and MONEY should be legally put behind the bars.Go run away from such people.
             So my dear dear friends, choose your partner with care and precaution.Judge them for weeks.Then only come to conclusion.For all my darling boys out there,watch this movie in order to avoid the breakup saga in your life.PKP2 is like the guide of which type of gf NOT TO CHOOSE.And my beautiful ladies out there watch how not to treat your bf in the ways shown in the movie.If you want him and love him as your hubby,support him,care for him,RESPECT him and his ideas,Friends.. n I'm sure you won't have a pyaar ka punchnama in your life.
I give it a 3.5/5 star for the locations in Pattaya,costumes and also for the 7 min monologue of Mr.main hero.I would have given a 4 star,but the songs bored me and too much of alcohol consumption was shown.Definitely go watch this movie with your lover or also your besties for a riot of laughter.Happy watching!!

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Level of Satisfaction

Dearest readers,
The word satisfaction comes from its mother word inner peace.If you are satisfied it means you are happy inside out.Atleast you are okay with whatever has happened.There are many times when my mother keeps yelling on me if I am ever satisfied with anything or not.Yesterday was one such day.This got me thinking about my never ending satisfaction levels.
                       I am a very unsatisfied person,I realised.But isn't it good to be unsatisfied.If you are satisfied with what you have,you will never want more and this will endup in you becoming lazy and underachiever in your life.This would mean end of dreaming and end of chasing dreams.Would it?But then what about the famous quote "Be satisfied with what you have"?Does under satisfaction make you greedy and demanding?Or does it gives your life a new purpose every time you complete one target to attain something newer,bigger and better?
Now here comes in picture the level of satisfaction.I always feel I was capable of getting COEP college,the so called best college in Pune.I am well deserving enough to ride in an Audi or a Mercedees.I need a mansion to live.And I want to marry Hrithik.(Coz now he is single.Age no barrier.)But then only if life was a bed of roses.I have to be satisfied with a MIT,a 4 wheeler and just a flat.So what are my levels of satisfaction?I want more.Everybody wants more.Some people who have mansions,now want to live on the moon! :\ Thus,Level of satisfaction is inversely proportional to acceptance of reality.
We must not be satisfied with what we have but what we can achieve.Have a nice college?aim for a nicer job.Have a nice job?work harder for a promotion.Have a small house right now?make sure you build a larger one and make your parents proud.Ofcourse when the right time comes.Have a loving boyfriend?be satisfied with his love instead of checking out that disloyal guy with a BMW.Have a beautiful girlfriend?Be satisfied with her inner blissful soul instead of staring at that hot chick's short dress.Have only a few loving friends?Its more than enough to live your life then.Lucky you.Know your limits and know when n where to be satisfied and when n where not to.No amount of complaining took anyone anywhere.Not content with something?Not satisfied?Change it.But investigate,if it really needs a change.

Most of all be happy and at peace.So tell me,whats your level of satisfaction?A degree,a job,a house,a wife,a family,a girlfriend/boyfriend who will be your future wife/husband?Or something more?Where do you want to go?Where will you stop?Will you stop?And how much of all of this is going to affect your life and mental peace?Will you STAY STRONG throughout?Go ahead.Tell me.

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Friendly Reminders.

Dearest Readers,

Happy Sunday!Enjoying the weekend?I hope you are.Sundays are fun-days.I mean at least you get enough sleep.I hope you do.Today I felt very confident and woke up feeling determined.This happened because I had found out some conclusions and was quite happy about it. :)

So for all of you who are out there,maybe a little stressed,a little blue,a full black or just a blunt grey...
A few friendly but Important Reminders:-

• You don't owe an explanation to anyone for taking care of yourself.-You are answerable just to yourself and your conscience.Nobody else.

• You are allowed to walk away from the people who hurt you.In any way.Without guilt.Without worry of the future.All the best.Do it now.

• An extension of point of 2.You are allowed to run as fast as possible from toxic relationships,friendships,family-ships,fights,non acceptance of your opinions.Don't accept anything that no longer grows,serves you or improves your life in any way.

• MOST IMPORTANTLY-You are allowed to be angry,selfish and unforgiving.These maybe the aftershocks of your past earthquake.Whatever your struggle,even if no one understands you,you yourself know what you have been through and what has made you into the way you are.Its okay.Okay?:)

So just remember these things and go ahead with life.Without fear of any kind or any guilt or any uneasy feeling in mind.It was your choice.To walk away or stay.If you succeed well and good,if you don't,don't waste your life in proving the society or even yourself.Bad decisions happen in life.You were born to be imperfect.Perfection is a waste of time.Smile and blow kisses!Be that confident bad-ass!

AND.

Stay Strong.

-Peace n Love.

Miss you.

Dearest Readers,
Long time no see,ya?Actually its me who is ill.Probably would have go through an operation soon.Anyways...Sickness n pain doesn't keep your mood right.So no thoughts come right.

But I'm better now today.And missed you guys and my baby way too much.About "missing" today. I'm missing someone badly everyday these days.Because that someone broke his phone.And went off to some Hawaiian Island. :/ This missing feeling is so strong.My entire day was just wasted.Missing someone or something is so common in our lives. In college we miss school.At work we miss college.In college we still miss our school crush,and as we are married off(if not to the person whom you love)we miss that ex-lover too.

This missing feeling is so consuming you know.You actually can't focus on a single shit.I did that.I watched 3 movies non stop then slept for 3 hours in the noon,non-stop.Well,Focus lost.I don't know how amazing this missing someone feeling is.You look forward to meeting that person.You check your door even if the bell didn't ring.You check your phone a 100 more times.You see old pictures,remember the memories and laugh and cry.You stare at the walls,look out of windows and travel down the memory lane.
You feel apologetic about your behaviour towards this person in the past.Scenes flood your head until you can't take it any more.Missing someone is actually a good exercise you know.You tend to analyse yourself.Review yourself.Missing someone makes you realise the degree of affection you have for a person.You get a fair idea of where he/she stands in your life.You know what guys...its actually the absence of something which makes us realise the value of everything.

If you are almost in love,and missing someone...Opps!You tend to fall more for that person.Everything you see and do makes you remind of them.You suddenly become an emotional fool.When this mainstream person is not present ,you feel like you are in some space,no air,just  vacuum.Alas,all you can do is to wait for that thing or person to arrive in front of you.And then again our joy knows no bounds.

So do you miss someone?It maybe your old self too! :) or someone you just passed by,or someone from school.Tell me whom do you miss!
or even if it is a thing.

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Wordless Wednesday!!!

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Ps-Something nice and interesting coming up tomorrow!Stay tuned!

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Birthdays.

Dearest Readers,
This post is going to be a bit different than the positivity I love to shower but then I guess its OK to be yourself at times.

Birthdays are the most special occasions for all.They are the days wherein people are on cloud 9.As for me I hate birthdays.I just do not like them.Surprised??Ask me why.

Every year since I was a kid,my family celebrated my birthdays very lavishly.No complaining there.But then I started realising that there was always this comparison of gifts.If I gifted an expensive gift to that particular friend,she or he would do the same for me.I smelled money,rich and poor and priorities there.This irked me to no bounds.If you love me make me a hand written card..It would have been enough and better  than a lifeless,half-hearted,same priced as my previous gift to you,is what I felt.Then I grew up and birthday parties at home stopped.We all were grown up and teenage had taken a toll on us.Now the parties and dinners started taking place in pubs,5 star hotels,etc.Even then I found out that I still hate birthdays.Because there was no celebration until I call for one.There is nothing if I don't throw a party.Those same people who came all the way to all your 19 birthday parties at home don't turn up on your 20th and 21st.People forget your birthdays.And people forget to wish at 12 o'clock too.I just could find that there was no surprise element left to a birthday.Instead people come down to their "asli aukat" on birthdays itself.People show their true colours on such special occasions itself.I have seen many of my associates have not celebrated their birthdays after the 16th one or so.I have seen people who are alone on their birthdays.I have also seen people who spoil other people's birthdays.Birthdays suck.Birthdays give you another reason to be sad in this already mundane life.It happens because he didn't wish me,she didn't come to meet me,my family did nothing special.Birthdays just fail the expectations you have set up on that day.There is a huge hue and cry about birthdays and they are overrated I feel.They just make me sad.Real sad.Sad to the bottom of my stomach.

I'm scared of birthdays actually.I fear rejection.I fear that people will forget to wish me.I will be alone on that day.I get nightmares too.I just wish this concept itself was cancelled.I would be less worried and more at peace.This fear is also to be blamed on the media.They project birthdays as the most important national event and have portrayed the celebration of birthdays in such a way that you have to get gifts.You have to have a surprise.You have to cut a cake.WHY?
What if nobody has ever done anything to surprise you.What if nobody brought a cake?What if there is no glamour to it?Your so called birthday is spoilt and you have one more scar on your memory about that day.Disappointments.Expectations violated and hearts broken.Is what birthdays are all about.I don't like birthdays.And I want to run away from mine.That's it.

I'm so sure many of you must be having many different opinions about this.And I want to know all.Please try and change my opinion if you can.And ofcourse if you love birthdays you may continue and invite me for a party too!;)
So birthday or no birthday....what's your story?


-Peace n love
Shalaka

When was that last time?

Dearest Readers,


How are you people?I've missed you and my blog so dearly.How have you been?

As humans,we are very lucky enough to experience so many emotions...isn't it?Infact we are the only animals who can laugh,..What Hyenas do is a call of their species.There are so many emotions which we go through daily...like frustration,tension,joy n sorrow.But there are some emotions which are special.Very special.And you can't and don't get to go through them daily.I'm talking about being sooo happy that you cry.Now this is something which one experiences seldom in one's life.That too in a life of today's hypocrite world.

Today,one of my friend was lucky to experience this very golden emotion in front of me.It was like this emotion transformed her completely.It made her go from a caterpillar in a cocoon to a beautifully fluttering butterfly.The happiness and aura she radiated was so contagious that we all watching her went from a zero to a whooping 100!!Such is the power of heart and happiness and emotions.

The thing which happened was that while returning home from a tiresome day of submissions,completions and running behind the deadlines was that she received a call,while all of us where busy complaining about how life was so busy and boring.She went away from us for a while and suddenly shouted on top of her voice..We all got worried at first.We thought she fell or something.And then we saw her laughing and giggling on the phone.After 15 suspicious minutes she came towards us and told us the GOOD NEWS.We all were left guessing for those 15 mins about what could have happened...n the brain is so powerful that it lets your thoughts and imaginations run far and wild!!!We thought she got proposed by a guy or she got to know a university paper or she was getting married or what! :D But then when she broke out the suspense she told us that her best friend was pregnant..for the 1st time!!!She was literally bouncing,dancing and so elated as she told us this.She had tears in her eyes.Tears of pure happiness.That too for someone else and not herself.We all were amazed at her excitement and she was so happy that we thought she could literally take the world on her head.Seeing so much of joy n merry even we all were very happy for her friend and her too.A happy person is as good as the sun.One is enough to give energy to all.Even we all were cheering with her though we had never even seen her bestie.This is the power of positivity.This was her golden moment.Once in a life time experience.N I was so glad and inspired that she was so happy in someone else's happiness and how selfless one should be.How one should find little joys of life in this long big one.

This got me thinking to another thought.WHEN WAS MY LAST GOLDEN MOMENT WHEN I WAS THIS HAPPY... THAT I ALMOST CRIED?Sadly nothing could come to my mind.Was I too busy searching for something too big to impress me?Probably waiting for a "Karan Johar moment"?Did I miss out on the small joys?I had no answer and no such luck of tears of happiness.I don't know.

Have you figured out your golden moment yet?

WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU WERE SO HAPPY THAT YOU ALMOST CRIED?
Tell me in the comments! :)Hope you have many such moments and if you haven't had it in a while... Let it come to you real soon!

Good night folks! :)

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

CHANGE.

Dearest Readers,
A big big hello to you all!!!I know I'm late.But I'm so so sorry...I was figuring out a few things.
We will come to that!So...Hows the new outlook?Liked it?Not much?Let me know....
I thought as my baby was a month a old...I should give it a new look and feel! :-D

Its changed now.Its a month mature...N this got me thinking about CHANGE.This word is so common that we use it every now and then.So how much is a change necessary?What does a change necessarily mean?What changes-people,time,priorities?and many such questions remain which are left unasked and unanswered.

Through my glasses,Change is a necessity today.One should change according to time and places.
One should change if the person standing in front of you has changed,AND not try to change him/her back to the original copy of themselves.Sometimes there are many reasons for them to change and the other times are when there is no reason for a change.People think changing anything about yourself is bad.Its not so.Many people are even afraid to change at all.But Change is a good thing infact.You should change.NOW. n I'll tell you how.

First of all understand change can bring you happiness...Mental peace.So you can change yourself in any of the following ways-
CHANGE YOUR LOOK- ;-)Interesting right?GO you lazy bum,walk to the nearest parlour and get yourself a new and fresh look.Cut off that hair or give it a shape.Do your manicure,pedicure(my male friends can also do this.)Trust me you'll come out looking sexy and confident.Co'om even you deserve some pampering.


CHANGE YOUR WARDROBE-yeessss.... This becomes the most interesting part of the story.You get to go shopping!!!Buy new shirts,jeans,wallet,bag,shoes,glares,perfumes..whatever you like.Even if the quantity is small.You will feel happy and content.
So basically I want to prove you guys that change can bring trueeeee happinessss!!:-D


CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE-Now this is the difficult part I know.AND NO LECTURES ON THIS POINT.But just that if you are doing some completions,catching some deadlines..just do it with Smartwork.. and Don't crib and cry about it.Try and enjoy whatever you are doing.


CHANGE YOUR OUTLOOK-Now this is the actual thing I have done to me this week and it took me some time but I have implemented it and it works!!!The inspiration was Insta.
Instagram's "thegoodquote.co" says something like this - "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to CHANGE the world,Today I'm wise so I'm changing myself." SO TRUE na?
We are irritated by numerous people everyday...by the things people do,their nature,their stupidities,their ignorance n etc etc etc.So what I understood by this quote was that you should actually let people be the way they are.They won't change anyway.But you will end up feeling stupid and unattended and hurt if you try to change them.So why not let destiny and karma decide what should be done with them?Just let go.I know you try to change the people whom you love,care..but what if they don't want to?Your job is to tell once,twice,thrice..but what after that.NO.Pull back yourself.Same goes with people who are already CHANGED and behaving weirdly.Leave them too.Give them their "so-called" SPACE and let them change the way they want.What you change is yourself.Because that is waaaaaaaay easier.Change your feelings for such people and act numb and unaffected.

People try to pull you down,you react..they are happy.Instead CHANGE yourself and understand that they are built that way.You can't help it.Let them be.But now that you remain unaffected and have understood their mentality you are at peace.Same goes for people who hurt you,make you angry,and blah.

So by changing all the above things about yourself you will be the most happiest person on earth.Seriously try them.I did.I'm speaking out of sheer experience of these 3-4 days.Let nothing affect you.Change yourself for a happier,better,and improved version of yourself.Download the UPDATE of yourself now.Keep little things little.N Stay Strong and Stay Blessed!!

Are you clever or wise?

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

A Thank you post!

My dear,dear,dear readers,
I am extremely happy,proud,full of joy and excitement and also a bit teary eyed because...my baby..this blog has completed one tiny twiny but successful month!!!!!
Yeyeyyeyeyey.... *drum rolls**trumpets*balloons,confetti...cakes n what not!!!!
I call it successful because it has reached a whooping amount of 1772 oops... 1773 page views.. 32 comments... n 19 international audience..including 17 from USA and 2 from Malaysia!! :)So elated.. never thought it would reach this peak of glory.But of course there is more to come...Its just the start and as they say well begun is half done.

I still remember a month back...I wasn't sure of whether I should take the plunge or not...But I decided to follow my dreams and heart as they say and here as I look back... 19 posts out of 30 days seems like a good start to me.Of course I'm going to keep my promise of posting almost daily and only when I have something genuine to say.And also to keep you all entertained and not bore you at any point of time.I have truly loved this activity of blogging my heart out to you..and I hope you all must have enjoyed too.I sincerely thank all of you for your wonderful support in such huge amounts.Thank you so so much for reading my mind and letting me know every time how I did.I really love you all.. truly and deeply.Today don't know how but I'm short of words and more in awe looking at this baby of mine whose a month old now.

I would like to mention a few names who read each n every post of mine and are my blog's true besties.So a BIG THANK YOU TO-
Vaibhav,Smita,Tanmai,Kirti,Saket,Pranav,Rajhans,Akshay,Sanika,Bhavana maushi,Chinmay,Kalpesh,Karan,Kaustubh,Mandar,Meghraj,Omkar,Prarthana,Priya,Rutuja,Rucha,Sanyogeeta,Sonal and many more of you.Excuse me n MSG me if I missed out some names.I Thank you all from the bottom of my heart.All of you out there reading this.

Reviewing myself..,I think I still haven't been able to write the best post...I'm going to try...n keep trying n your comments will help me go further.Lastly I request you all to keep spreading the word about my blog.Tell your friends,family and all those whom you can.Keep sharing.

Again Thank you so much everybody for your support!n please keep the same throughout...!!!

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

What is better... seriousness or timepass?

Dearest Readers,
First of all wishing you a very happy and prosperous ganesh chaturthi n the whole of ganesh festival.
Many of you messaged me and asked me about why there was no post yesterday.The reason is I'm not much elated at the thought of festivals... which I will be blogging about later.

So today as a friend of mine n I was talking about relationships..we came across a surprising analysis.It concluded that most couples who were not serious with each other...were happier than the couples who were serious.Here non seriousness for us meant that it was casual dating,hanging out,f**k buddies and overall whatever we refer as "Timepass".Meaning No Intention of marriage or kids or a future together.Temporary bullshit from my point of view.But later on I also agreed with her that these people were indeed happier than the ones who dreamt of marriage,kids,and growing old together.

Is this really true?
Looking at my friends and friends of friends... it does seem like people who are just chilling with each other are enjoying their lives in each n every sense.Reason.They fight rarely because nothing bothers them much...they accept the way their partner is because they know they won't be living with him/her forever.
Some comparisons I can put up-
S is serious wale relations and Cd is casual daters.
So it happens this way that:-
Bf/gf is smoking.
S-"Why do you have to smoke at all...You will die one day.What will our kids do without you."
Cd-"Baby...pass me the ciggi na!"
See.. no fights in Cd at all..Peace.

Bf/gf does not text on time.
S-"Where were you...what took you so long..what were you doing????"
Cd-"Baby mekko treat chahiye tune late reply kiya isliye."
Poor serious gf/bf is worried about you n this ends up in a fight as to why she or he asked sooo many questions.

Bf/gf is depressed.
S-"You should be more responsible na baccha.. listen to your mom..do this n that...blah."
Cd-"Chill baby.. you want a kissi?"
Poor serious gf/bf tried to go into the root cause n this ended up in a fight were gf or bf shouted saying "You always blame me!!!"

I can give you numerous other incidences where you will find that not being serious was way helpful than really caring about the person in front of you.It really avoids fights,clashes n shit.All you have to do is sit in your bf's lavish car,drive along...ENJOY your day n then forget about him/her until the next time you meet.But personally I'm against this.Because I feel this is not LOVE.Love is to tell each others mistakes,where he she is going wrong.To correct them.To shout on them.To make sure they walk on correct path,be with right people.Caring and loving is what goes in the long term.Not just the TIMEPASS done with them or the ENJOYment.

Such type of enjoyment can be done by anyone and everyone..It takes guts,courage and the will to make a relationship work by being serious about it.So what are you?On which side are you?Are you thinking long term or just chilling?Are you that strong enough for a relationship?

-Peace n love
Shalaka

Wordless Wednesday!

Dearest Readers,

Like every Wednesday,this is my post for wordless Wednesday!Liked it?Not that good?whatever you feel...let me know.. :)

Reminds me of my village n my family over there!:)

-Peace n love

Shalaka

Are you feeling Lonely?

Dearest Blog,
I'm tremendously sorry about not keeping my promise to post daily.I really feel sad and helpless.I was working on the dance which my group rocked yesterday and there are no gains without pain.I used to get completely exhausted by the time I reached a source of internet and as per half of the promise to you and the readers,I would never post anything just for the sake of it.I will never write anything that has not come out of my heart.So my apologies.N here we begin again by the new promise of posting genuinely.
NOW
Dearest Readers,
Its the weekend again.. so what are your plans?Actually,weekends are not that happening as they are portrayed in movies and books.Weekends mostly constitute of cleaning,washing n sleeping the whole week's share.
This particular weekend I am feeling a bit down.A bit not-the-usual-jolly-me.Depressed?NO.Suicidal?NOT AT ALL.Just plain Sad?Yes probably.And lonely.Oh yes.

At some point or the other in a week or in a day or mostly evenings or surely at night between 12am-2am we all tend to feel lonely.Loneliness can come out of many a things combined.Its maybe because you are missing your parents if you are away from them or maybe its someone else.
As I was researching for this post I found that lots n lots of research has been done on this topic.People have written international papers too!Astonishing right?So it means that 3 out of every 10 people in the world are going through the same emotion as you n currently me are!This actually made me feel better because I wasn't the only one who was feeling lonely. :D
So coming back.. another cause of loneliness is rejection.From anyone.Need not be your crush... it maybe your professor,colleague,your maid :D basically anyone who said a NO to you in your face.Loneliness also comes from constant fights,disrespect,lack of attention towards you and your opinions,ignorance and lastly being surrounded by individuals having way different tastes of everything from you.

Lonely feeling comes and stays for long I feel.But we need to find out its cause as soon as possible.Like love,even this feeling is a slow poison.If you allow it to stay long with you it really enters your heart n brain damaging the whole system n then even if your life is perfect you feel that it is raining only on you n start criticising,nagging,cribbing about smallest of things.You make yourself REAL lonely and start believing that you have some major issues in your life.Never do that.

I was feeling lonely till the previous moment but then these are the things I do to fight back this little monster.
1)Take a reality check of how lonely you are really!
You have your parents and one true friend with you-Not lonely at all.
You have only your parents with you-No.Not lonely yet.
You don't have your parent's support + no true friend-Watch the company you keep and your behaviour too.Maybe a bit lonely.
2)EAT.n by eat I mean everything.The one who will call you fat.Eat them too.Biryani,Pizza,Chicken,Chocolate,Ice-cream,Chinese..anything you like.Get out of the house now.Go.You have my full permission.
3)Meet up or call a real supporter or a fan of yours.(The ones that give you an ego boost.You know they lie but today its ok.You need a dose.)
4)Take rest n sleep for flat 4-5 hours.This does help.A lot.You can wake up sorted.
5)And of course which everyone of us does.Earphones on and bring on the Tomorrowland or trance or whatever is your cup of tea.Or watch a movie.

I did all of this.N here I am again cheerful and happy and ready to take on life.Bring it on baby!!
Have a great Sunday ahead!n Stay Strong.My blog and me are with you! *Kisssesss*

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

A Book Review and a Movie review for you!


Dearest Readers,
How did your week start off?Monday blues!?Tired n needing a vacation already?Well,similar is my case.The weekend kept me quite occupied.I attended a book launch and saw a movie too! ;)
The book that got launched was "You're trending in my dreams" by Sudeep Nagarkar.He is the author of 5 national best sellers and the 6th one is on its way.He writes in a pretty simple style making the youth his audience.His books are more related to real life,friendships and relationships.


So my thoughts on the book-(Your's can differ completely)The story revolves around 4 friends-Garima,Varun,Malvika,Ahana.
Ahana is a very strong headed woman and is weaved in such a way that she represents today's strong woman.They all live in a flat in Mumbai and the fun continues unless and until one message arrives which changes their life.Sudeep has touched on many issues like child abuse,leaking of papers,father son relationship n a lot more.
All n all the book is good for one time read but there are many patches where in you get bored.Also the book is based only in Mumbai and no other cities are described.The length of the book is small therefore making it seem like a CID episode.Also the title is irrelevant. I liked his earlier books much more.There is nothing special in the story.
But do read this book as you should read Indian fiction and it does have a romantic scene which is quite seducing! ;)Order it on Flipkart or Amazon or go buy it in your nearest crossword stores.DO NOT ENCOURAGE PIRACY BY BUYING ROAD SIDE BOOKS.


Now guess the movie I saw.Well it was Welcome Back!I was dying to watch it because the 1st part still has me in splits whenever I watch it.So was kinda hoping the same this time.
The caste is ofcourse *Refer the poster*.The film is really good..against the people who are complaining so much.Anil kapoor and Nana make you laugh a lot of times and help you keeping engrossed in the movie.Apart from that John's action scenes are amazing.Shruti Hassan has done a lip surgery.Thats all I want to say because I couldn't see her acting.Also she needs a Vicks ki goli because her voice is so coarse.Paresh Rawal  is wonderful as usual and others are unnecessary.The 2nd part is boring and end is illogical.The songs make you go to sleep.But ofcourse they have managed to keep a few scenes excellent with respect to timing,comedy and emotional scenes too.
All n all one time watch.You will have a good laugh.
2.5/5 from me.


So here I have given you a few ideas for your weekend or if you wish to take an in between weekday off.Laugh out loud.Or.Read n Ponder.Your choice.

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Uncomplicating People.

Dearest Readers,
Often it happens with us that we don't understand the behaviour of others.Towards us,towards society or anything for that matter.We just sum it up saying that the person is "complicated".We fail to understand people,personalities and their intention.

Yesterday we had our industrial visit to various places.The intention was ofcourse that the students should enjoy TOGETHER and get an idea about the industrial environment.Leave the later part but people take the meaning of enjoy together as enjoy together in groups,subgroups and individuals with their eyephones on and people who aren't interested in anything.(Attendance probably or their parents kicked them out of their houses).


I always wonder,why do people do this to themselves,to the people around them?If you are plainly not interested in anything stay at home.Why do you have to come in the first place.. to show the world you that you are doing a favour on them?I simply fail to understand the mob mentality.Well people who are interested are so small in number that they almost disappear in the crowd.Showing lack of interest discourages the crowd and makes the whole atmosphere dull.I call such people diffusers.They take away the light in everything.They are disappointed by each and everything.They suck out life in you and leave you unfulfilled.These people are complicated,unsolvable,irritating and also they themselves cannot provide any justification on why they behave in a certain manner.



People are complicated maybe because they have some serious complicated things going on in their life or maybe because they are angry on the world for rewarding them with some injustice.Or they might be born that way or they might have changed after an event in their life or they are insecure about something or plainly they are hungry!(So if you find any more reasons...please mention in the comments box. :D)

So finally accepting that certain people are built in a certain way.. what do people around them do?
Me?I ignore such people and don't let them in my happy zone.Thats the best possible way.You can also try and change these diffusers.(my advice-DO NOT.)You also can enquire about the reason they are this way.Maybe they will be able to explain their struggle and you will understand why they are Complicated.Or plainly move on with your life.But if you yourself are one of the candle blowers..if you know what I meant here..then please my darling...stop it right now.Analyize whether you are causing trouble to the people around you?Are you being ignored?Are you really at fault?If yes,its time to sort yourself out my friend.See what is bothering you and don't make the weather around you gloomy.


Laugh and Enjoy when you are supposed to.Be sad and sit and cry when you are in real need of it.Ponder over yourself.Think twice.But most importantly LIVE AND LET LIVE.And LOVE.Life is really short,cut out this complication of yours well in advance before it consumes you completely.

Don't be a diffuser and stay away from one.SMILEEEE..., :)


-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Wordless Wednesday.

Presenting before you a Special Rajasthani Thali from the famous chain of restaurants "Rajdhani".Had a sumptuous meal which was a surprise from special someone.So full..

Goodnight folks!

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Even if you...
Even if you come running behind me,
it won't matter
Coz I've waited too long n cried to hard to see.

Even if you give me that bouquet of red roses,the diamond ring I've always wanted..those stupid cards and chocolates,
it won't matter
Coz I've realised we are nothing close even to being soulmates.

Even if you fly a million miles,and walk a thousand deserts..
it won't matter
Coz you haven't bothered about my million smiles and you forgot about the 'yours truly' given thousand hurts.

Even if you now say you love me more than anything n anyone in this world...
it won't matter
Coz you aren't aware of how many nights I've spent in a dark place of my mind...in a blanket curled.

Even if you say you did miss me throughout,
it won't matter
Coz all I want to do with you is slap n shout.

Even if you say its going to be forever..
it won't matter
Coz now I've changed...n become heartless and clever.

Even if you come back to me
it won't matter
Coz now the tables have turned,I've learnt to live without you,I've tried to erase all the memories however unsuccessful I might be...
I'm done.
I'm done with you n its time for me to pick up my bags..n walk far far away from you...even if you...
                                                 
-Peace n Love
Shalaka

RakshaBandhan...

My lovely lovely readers....
How was your Rakshabandhan?Fun filled?Received lots of gifts girls?Boyss....wallets empty?:D Good... It is just the beginning of all festivals...There will be more to come soon!

So what does raksha bandhan really mean to you?For me.. it is the protecting bond between two really close family members or souls.It is not just a festival limited for a brother and a sister.At least this year I saw on facebook what I had been practising for many years.Many households are present in India with only two sisters or two brother.If they have their cousins visiting..well and good.But even today thousands mourn over the fact that they do not have a real brother,to protect,to shout,to put restrictions or simply tie a rakhi.Relatives are still bitchy and taunt the respective mothers for not producing a silly stupid SON.

Im fumed at this.My anger knows no bounds when something like this happens.The houses where there are two boys.. rarely anyone has a complaint.But.Two girls...OMG..who is going to take care of both of them?!
MY QUESTION-why can't they take care of themselves..Do we always need a man to protect us,to give us a name,to tie a rakhi?Did anyone ever mention that rakhi was only for a man?!I don't think so.Rakhi is a bond of love and affection and most importantly assurance that a person is there for you.Forever and after and in sickness and in health.The person who ties the rakhi is thanking the person who is getting the rakhi tied as a mark of their love and for always being by their side.The person receiving the rakhi gives the other a present as a token of love indicating that they are loved and important.Rakhi is the thread to mark the bond,to celebrate the relation.There is no gender bias to it.There should not be.

We are two sisters.And really..the bond we share is amazing.She does not need a bossy brother with useless restrictions being put on her.She has me for it.I can very well protect her.From anything and everything. I'm always there for her.Whatever she needs.So every year she ties a beautiful,hand-picked rakhi on my hand.And people give me raised eyebrows because they can't handle a girl,a woman so powerful and more than enough for the protection of her sister.Single kids can tie a rakhi to their parents!Why do you need a brother for it?!Aren't your parents protecting you for ages together?


Hence go ahead and celebrate the way you want.There are no restrictions on you.Be a sister or a brother.You should just need a reason to enjoy yourself.Happiest belated Rakshabandhan! :D And make it point to change atleast one mindset next year!Sisters..go tie your sisters a rakhi..she will smile n feel so good that you have so much faith in her.Than a brother.

Sharing with you the picture of the wonderful navy blue(my favourite colour) rakhi which my sister tied on my hand.Won't take it out soon.Let more people question me.Proud to be a Brother and Sister at the same time! :))


-Peace and Love
Shalaka

Is everything decided by destiny?or is everything in your hands?

Dearest Readers,
Today inspite of having a very busy day,I met a friend of mine who asked me a question which led me to so many thoughts at a time.It confused me...it mind boggled me... n it left me in the search of finding a confirm answer.It struck me hard as lightening.The question was-"Is everything decided by God or destiny or do you believe that you craft your own future!?Answer me Shalaka."N I was left stunned for a moment.


Many a times we feel that some people don't deserve some things.The others are more LUCKIER than us.
FATE,DESTINY,LUCK,GOD,SINS,GOOD DEEDS,HARDWORK!?What does one believe in when we have soo many egs of people who merely got lucky..like for eg,the politicians.. Do you feel they are seriously that qualified to earn so much amount of money that their 7 generations can eat n live in luxury without even working a bit?Do you seriously feel that the kids of rural parts of India or the world were destined to be hungry n begging?When they did nothing wrong to anyone?!Does KARMA exist?is she really a bitch?or just a fair judge?


So my view on it was YES.KARMA exists.She might be a bit late,forgotten about you,very busy..But yes.She does exists.I believe in luck too.Yes,accept it... we all know some people are born lucky.Like Abhishek Bachan... n many star kids..politician kids..etc.But they are lucky because some one at some point has worked enough to give them what they are getting today.So yes.Hardwork also exists.Infact its like the step brother of luck.Now the destiny part of the story.Yes.I believe more in destiny.Because see.. we all are destined to reach a peak in life.What thats going to be is already decided..Lets say by God or the universe who so ever you might believe in.But which path you take thats where hardwork comes into the picture and what you do along the path is where karma comes into place.All humans are machines made by God is what I believe in.He has designed us for some purpose or the other.Thats  the destiny.That is why you are meant to visit an endpoint.Its already decided for you.This explains the unexplained failure in life.BUT.In the case where you have already given 110%.And you have still failed... then might be it was not your fault and destiny intervened.Or you were  really a mean bitch along the way then Karma hit you hard.Maybe we conclude then that this wasn't the the path you were supposed to take.And you have better things laid ahead.
Now hardwork n sincerity play a very important role in deciding was destiny the culprit or you yourself were insufficient.If you do not work towards a goal n then blame luck... you are a coward running from responsibilities.But well if you tried hard 110% 200 times.. yet no success.. Think again... maybe you are at fault.Or maybe you should try something else..a different path or lastly feel free to blame destiny.Yes.She might be there.
I don't like fools crying over luck but I can understand people who have lost their battles with destiny.

So whatever it might be... destiny or your working hands.. both have to go hand in hand for a success.Karma will come n go n for her you need be cautious about your behaviour.So work hard towards your goal n be least bothered about destiny.She has her own way of getting things done from you.And never get dejected.You never know what you maybe having next an ice-cream or an amla candy or a hot chilly!!

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Wordless Wednesday...

Dearest Readers,
I will be posting a picture on every Wednesday.On Wednesdays there won't be any words to describe it or to give your thoughts some direction.Let them run wild and free,based on the picture.So this is it.This is a recent click from my Goa trip...Its the Baga beach.

Good Night folks.. see you tomorrow with some words and some insights.

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Tears are Pearls.

I remember my granny always telling me this that my tears are pearls to her and that real pearls were formed when some God cried or some very pure soul was in distress.
I always found this ideology amazing n fascinating as well.

Isn't it nice to imagine tears are pearls?Pearls are precious.And so are tears..They are not meant to be wasted on some foolish people or unexpected situations or anything for that matter.Like real pearls you should reserve your tears for only those who deserve.

We all cry.C'mon who does not.Grown up men do.Women of all ages do.Its just like their birth right.Whatever the reason...We all cry or have cried at some point or another.Crying is the most common emotion we come across.But crying a lot has a lot of disadvantages and ill effects on the body..however natural the process maybe.Needless to say crying causes brain waves distortion,puffed eyes,dark circles,lost mental balance.But crying is an unavoidable part of all of our lives..because life herself is a bitch many a times.

However,defeating the bitch is in your hands...Crying helped no one n no problems were ever solved with tears.So my friend,the next time you find yourself nearby this little Mr.Not-Invited.. Pick yourself up n don't cry.. whatever the reason might be.Your tears are your pearls.Cherish them and don't let them out in front of anyone and for anything.Wipe your tears because they are valued and if you yourself don't care about them.. who will?

I have seen people cry for the silliest of reasons like their footwear's strap came out .. they cut their hair and din't like it.Anything literally... I feel pity for them because I can see how childishly they are losing their most intense resource.Tears are like pieces of your soul.Don't waste them.Respect yourself.Learn to stand up for yourself.Learn to find solutions for a problem.Crying n tears are never the solvers to any twist life has to offer you.Happy tears or khushi ke asu are allowed... but not gamm ke sagar.


So smile my dearest readers because tomorrows going to be a new day and you will be lucky enough to witness it.And life is too short.SERIOUSLY.to be anything but waterproof(read tears proof)and cheerful.Spread the joy.N enjoy.Don't be the reason for the loss of anyone's pearls.You are a criminal and under arrest then! ;)

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

How busy you are really..eh?

We all are very busy...aren't we?Workplaces,colleges,travelling time,here n there..idhar udhar ki baate vagera vagera...
We often complain that we don't have enough time.For anything and everything.We do nothing the whole day n still we are busy.Time flies.N we give it wings.Many people want 48 hours to a day...Trust me... even they won't be enough.

So why are we ALWAYS.SO.BUSY.?!Often we hear from friends,relatives that they were busy in something so they couldn't be there for you.You guessed it right and no prices for guessing.Its all about priorities.No one.. really.. even Modi is not so busy that they don't have those two mins for replying to your text,or making that call or meeting you up or doing that chore for you.Mind you.NO-ONE.Its actually a matter of where you stand in a person's life which decides how much he/she will be there for you.If they are least bothered about you they will always be busy for you n your ideas.If you are the most important person in their life...they will always have time for you no matter what.Even if they are in front of their boss..they will text you.Even if they are driving...they will call you up..n even after a tiresome day they will meet you.Because they care about you n love you.

The muddle starts where you suddenly drop from number 1 on the priority list to number somewhere around 12-17.You suddenly tend to hear "I am busy,I was busy" thing a lot.This is actually quite alarming... you should try to win over your Mr.Busy or Miss.Busy ASAP or leave him or her alone to find out what exactly they are busy in.. n how long they wish to be busy.

Hearing ""I'm busy"" is actually quite daunting you know.The person on the receiving end is left wondering what went wrong..n feeling extremely sorrowful,confused... n and in anguish and umbrage.The solution is TIMED patience.Meaning... being patient and in hope for only a certain period of time... whatever you are comfortable with.. a month is more than enough I feel for a person to stabilize at least from whatever one is facing.So coming back to the solution.. We all are very intelligent these days n thanks to smart phones we are smart too.So take the hint n behave accordingly.Sense the need to leave alone the busier lot to be busy.And recognize the genuinely busy folks.They will revert back.The others won't,until you do.Just being busy will make you lose people in your life.Do you want to be that bad really?!

Now if you belong to the "I'M ALWAYS SO BUSY" lot... my dear babies.. don't do this to yourself..If you want to avoid a person... refuse directly n politely.Being busy harmed no one but being rude to people did no good.So keep your phones aside and call that friend who might be missing you and text that friend whom you are avoiding for no reason.He might have something nice to say.Go visit your grandparents.All you will receive is love n blessings which you otherwise won't receive by being busy.Make a trip to the gym... you are never really busy for your health basically.All of the above won't take more than 20 mins of yours.Spend this much time for yourself.Meditate.Run for 20 mins.Do what you love for 20 mins.Live.In the moment.Seize it my friend.


So tell me will you read this blog daily??HOW BUSY ARE YOU REALLY..EH?


-Peace n Love
Shalaka

A fun post!!! :D

Dearest Readers,

Extremely sorry about not posting yesterday..blame the voltage problem resulting in no wifi or it was the WEEKEND bitchessss!!:D Well whatever might be the reason I have come with a compensation for my deed.We will do something fun today..Go Go bring a paper n a pen or open notes in your phones.

Answer these 15 thought provoking questions if you can.;-)

1)Do you have a reason to smile right now?
My ans-YES.I'm writing my blog...I'm loving it... :-D n also there are no reasons to frown now.SAY CHEESSEEEEE!!!


2)Do you miss someone currently?Have you texted them recently?
My ans-YES.Yes again..I texted him when I inaugurated the blog.


3)Who would you like to meet?your ancestors or your grandchildren?
My ans-My grandchildren of course.That way I would get a fair idea of whom I'm gonna be marrying!;-)


4)What do you believe in?Love at first site?or a long term friendship turning into a relationship?
My ans-I believe in Attraction at first sight which may or may not turn to love.And that may or may not be permanent.And friendships turning to relationships are the best gift destiny can give you.Those are the best kinds of relationships because you know each other very well and chances of betrayal and failure are less.You always can count on friendship but not attraction.It is volatile.


5)Would you rather explore the ocean or the space?
My ans-Space.I'm bored of this milky way you know!;-)planning on a vacayy in some other parallel earth!:-D


6)What would hurt you the most?People not coming on your wedding?or people not attending your funeral?
My ans-Funeral.Though I wouldn't be able to see who came...my soul would see who all were true to me in my lifetime and who all were just fake.Also I would be able to judge that how many hearts I finally won!So people not attending my funeral would hurt me more.


7)Would you loose your vision or hearing or your feet?
My ans-Hearing would do.People could write things for me.Vision is too important,as well as feet because the life is too short to travel the whole world which I want to do!:-))


8)Would you have a rewind button or a pause button in your life?
My ans-How about a fast-forward button?To skip the bad times?:-D n just Enjoy the jubilant times!


9)Do you collect anything?
My ans-Yes.I used to collect broken pieces of flooring tiles.Sounds weird.Though I liked their shapes and colors.I still possess a collection of about 2000 pieces of tiles.:-)


10)Introvert or Extrovert?
My ans-Extrovert.My life is an open book.Everyone knows everything about me.I'm that transparent n crystal clear.Happy being this way.


11)Lose your house,cellphone or lover?
My ans-Anything but Lover.He is my whole n soul strength.With him I can build several houses n phone isn't a big deal!


12)What's the wallpaper of your computer?
My ans-The picture I post for every post.I change it daily.Just like my blog!:-)


13)Are you having the same career you dreamt of as a child?
My ans-NO.I wanted to become a scientist or an actress.Now most happy choosing engineering. :-D


14)Which city would you visit right now?
My ans-P.A.R.I.S. Undoubtedly. Definitely.Where is my flight ticket?


15)Cold chocolate or hot soup?
My ans-Cold chocolate or chocolate in any form.I have a sweet tooth.WAIT.32 sweeeeet teeeth! :-D

So go ahead n tell me what are your answers!Enjoyed it?Let me Know...Happy Sunday folks..Be prepared for a MONDAY!See you tomorrow!

-Peace and Love
Shalaka

The face of your Fear.
Horror movies.Ghosts.Haunted places.Zombies?!
Is this fear?No.
According to me there is more to fear than this.
People are afraid of snakes,insects certain animals,heights,deep waters,darkness etc.
But my greatest fear is when people change.
When people leave your world or this world.Whenever a person close to you changes his or her nature... its difficult to accept.When things were going on smoothly and efficiently..there comes a sudden halt and the change is of such a degree that you can't even recognise that person anymore.It was as if you have had a beautiful dream which either turns to a nightmare or you simply wake up.This scares the shit out of me.I can't believe my eyes n my heart can't even function.I get a very ill feeling of my heart left hanging in the air.Another worst thing to happen to a person is the DEATH.Of a loved one.It again sends down a chill on my spine...the way people are just packed up to a wooden something,wrapped in cloth n just sent away to burn down to ashes.Its like they are no more a person now,..They are just a thing.

Even you must have experienced both of my greatest fears...
People change,priorities change.What remains are the stupid memories behind to haunt you for a life time.Uncertainity hurts.Looking into the future gives goosebumps.Infact we are surrounded by fear everywhere.You never know whom you thought to be your best friend might just stab you in the back,or the elder woman next door you spoke to,was probably your last talk.

So what do we do in such times....
Firstly protect your heart... its the most delicate thing ever made.Create a shield of confidence around it n a sense of belief.
Step 2.Remain true to yourself n encourage others to be the same..Love unconditionally..so that atleast looking at you people will feel guilty for their ill deeds n betrayals.
n Lastly pray for everyone's well being n health.

n my tip-Don't Overthink!Life has its ways n means to provide you with lots of happiness(if you have done good n you are well deserving.)N Don't be afraid of anything.. Face life with your bitch mode on!What goes around will definately come around!So tell me...how does your fear look?

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Free Happiness anyone??:))
Dearest Readers,
Here I'm back again... to greet you all...so how was your day?gloomy?busy?exciting?
However it might have been...did u make someone happy today?For that,were you happy with yourself?or plainly...just tooo busy running behind the clock?!

Everybody today is fighting a battle..we don't know off...we judge people unknowingly...we call them stupid,we call them fat,we make fun of their financial background...we hurt people n don't even notice the pain in their eyes.My dearest friends...let us take a moment n think on this... If we can't help someone in their struggle...we can at least make them smile when they are going through the treacherous process.So here I'm with quick n easy solutions for you...


5 Best ways to make someone HAPPY:-

1.Smile-at each n every accquintance you see...n if you notice its someone's rainy day.. just Hug the person n without enquiring about the problem tell him/her..its going to be alright.


2.Compliment people-Might be on their old dress itself... but make sure if you like something about someone..stop n appreciate...the person does feel loved n motivated.

3.Do some extra work on your part-It might be as simple as pulling a chair..or helping n daily work..or maybe just handing out some money..or helping in whatever way you can.Do it.Now.

4.FOOD. The best way to anybody's heart is food..bring it on... make something..buy something for all your co-workers...n wooho... you have won a million hearts!:)

5.Last but not the least...Do not spread negativity for no reason..Live happily n let others do so.Listen to people if they have to share.Care about everyone.Don't sulk..show attitude of any kind,No neglect..n treat all with love n sympathy.

If you follow these simple mantras...just see
how easy your life becomes,..n mostly how happy you become.Inner peace is the most important aspect of your life.By spreading happiness around you,you are making the world a better place n you will notice how you will have lesser fights n more friends.SO go ahead.. start right now... n MANUFACTURE SOME HAPPINESS.Free of cost.

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Lover,Shh...,Dating
The moment I use the word LOVER...someone must have popped up in your mind.Oh wait...was it just one or many?Even if the count went above just one,even if it was one true and half a crush...Welcome to the 21st century.

Well the problem starts with the end of 1st true love.. n well let me tell you if its 1st love it has to end!(**If you are still with your first love,still better you both are childhood sweethearts...GO GET MARRIED and don't come back here** :D).So if your beautiful Yash Chopra's film set,with KJo as a director & Switzerland shooting location,Chiffon saris & SRK like handsome prince and "place any heroine's name you like"like princess has ended...Welcome to the club of 83% people around the world.The story actually starts with the innocent guy's heart being taken away(read crushed,stamped upon,destroyed to pieces)by the bad-ass,sexy,over-smart bitch & with the innocent girl's heart being taken away(read changed forever,ignored,broken..n blah)by the dude of the crowd with eyes that could kill and who is a total heart wrecker with his charming talks.

The conclusion point is the generation today can remain in love only until their 1st breakup happens.What follows next is series of cigarettes,drunken sailors,drug addicts,loss of character and most importantly loss of hope in life and loss of faith in love.This is a very serious problem of today where this generation guys and girls CANNOT STAY IN LOVE!:( The prime reason being the hurt their innocence received and the way their Yash Chopra dream set was set on fire.And if its your 1st breakup,things are worse.Girls leave guys for their lack of cash,for caste or unwillingness to adjust or simply "I don't love you anymore reason"(read utter bullshit).Guys leave girls for maybe because they can't find her sexy anymore(read he saw a model like babe) or simply  "I don't love you anymore reason"(read utter bullshit).So whatever magic the guy & girl saw in the eyes of each other,the love they felt in the 1st kiss,the company they couldn't live without is lost more quickly than the expiring date of their 1st gift.
My Question-WHY SO?

Everybody today should try to remain in love and stay happy that way.If you have your 1st love with you,please stay with him/her.Yes,there will be nasty fights,there will be another one whose cuter,smarter, & the one "who understands you more".But just because some thing new glittered in your life don't forget your real gold.Try to work things out instead of fighting and abusing and finally breaking up.Take your ego levels down.Basically I believe there should not be terms like boyfriend/girlfriend,casual dating etc.It should be replaced by my future husband,wife,dreaming of marriage soon.Only one man/woman that too forever and after.And then God makes this belief of yours crash.What you do next is important,don't search for someone to get over your ex.You yourself are powerful enough to overcome that shit.Wait for your next lover to come to you & hold on tight to him/her.Improve the mistakes you made in your last relationship.Introspect,grow up and grow out of it.

My whole and soul message is "Don't fall out of love so soon guys...Don't fall in soon too".Think about all the angles of it before you enter a relationship.Cross check 1st time itself whether it will be worth your time,money and mental state.See,prevention is better than cure!;-)
Jumping from one relation to other and hurting yourself and others is easy.Casual dating is easy.What is not easy is compromises,adjustments,saying the 1st sorry after a fight,waiting for a person to come back after a breakup.Try to work on the gold 1st and even after a year it doesn't work n you simply feel it was brass scrap you loved :-D..then move on with a shield around your heart towards the glitter you saw.It might be a diamond or a piece of shinning glass you never know!:-))

-Peace n Love
Shalaka