Even if you...
Even if you come running behind me,
it won't matter
Coz I've waited too long n cried to hard to see.

Even if you give me that bouquet of red roses,the diamond ring I've always wanted..those stupid cards and chocolates,
it won't matter
Coz I've realised we are nothing close even to being soulmates.

Even if you fly a million miles,and walk a thousand deserts..
it won't matter
Coz you haven't bothered about my million smiles and you forgot about the 'yours truly' given thousand hurts.

Even if you now say you love me more than anything n anyone in this world...
it won't matter
Coz you aren't aware of how many nights I've spent in a dark place of my mind...in a blanket curled.

Even if you say you did miss me throughout,
it won't matter
Coz all I want to do with you is slap n shout.

Even if you say its going to be forever..
it won't matter
Coz now I've changed...n become heartless and clever.

Even if you come back to me
it won't matter
Coz now the tables have turned,I've learnt to live without you,I've tried to erase all the memories however unsuccessful I might be...
I'm done.
I'm done with you n its time for me to pick up my bags..n walk far far away from you...even if you...
                                                 
-Peace n Love
Shalaka

RakshaBandhan...

My lovely lovely readers....
How was your Rakshabandhan?Fun filled?Received lots of gifts girls?Boyss....wallets empty?:D Good... It is just the beginning of all festivals...There will be more to come soon!

So what does raksha bandhan really mean to you?For me.. it is the protecting bond between two really close family members or souls.It is not just a festival limited for a brother and a sister.At least this year I saw on facebook what I had been practising for many years.Many households are present in India with only two sisters or two brother.If they have their cousins visiting..well and good.But even today thousands mourn over the fact that they do not have a real brother,to protect,to shout,to put restrictions or simply tie a rakhi.Relatives are still bitchy and taunt the respective mothers for not producing a silly stupid SON.

Im fumed at this.My anger knows no bounds when something like this happens.The houses where there are two boys.. rarely anyone has a complaint.But.Two girls...OMG..who is going to take care of both of them?!
MY QUESTION-why can't they take care of themselves..Do we always need a man to protect us,to give us a name,to tie a rakhi?Did anyone ever mention that rakhi was only for a man?!I don't think so.Rakhi is a bond of love and affection and most importantly assurance that a person is there for you.Forever and after and in sickness and in health.The person who ties the rakhi is thanking the person who is getting the rakhi tied as a mark of their love and for always being by their side.The person receiving the rakhi gives the other a present as a token of love indicating that they are loved and important.Rakhi is the thread to mark the bond,to celebrate the relation.There is no gender bias to it.There should not be.

We are two sisters.And really..the bond we share is amazing.She does not need a bossy brother with useless restrictions being put on her.She has me for it.I can very well protect her.From anything and everything. I'm always there for her.Whatever she needs.So every year she ties a beautiful,hand-picked rakhi on my hand.And people give me raised eyebrows because they can't handle a girl,a woman so powerful and more than enough for the protection of her sister.Single kids can tie a rakhi to their parents!Why do you need a brother for it?!Aren't your parents protecting you for ages together?


Hence go ahead and celebrate the way you want.There are no restrictions on you.Be a sister or a brother.You should just need a reason to enjoy yourself.Happiest belated Rakshabandhan! :D And make it point to change atleast one mindset next year!Sisters..go tie your sisters a rakhi..she will smile n feel so good that you have so much faith in her.Than a brother.

Sharing with you the picture of the wonderful navy blue(my favourite colour) rakhi which my sister tied on my hand.Won't take it out soon.Let more people question me.Proud to be a Brother and Sister at the same time! :))


-Peace and Love
Shalaka

Is everything decided by destiny?or is everything in your hands?

Dearest Readers,
Today inspite of having a very busy day,I met a friend of mine who asked me a question which led me to so many thoughts at a time.It confused me...it mind boggled me... n it left me in the search of finding a confirm answer.It struck me hard as lightening.The question was-"Is everything decided by God or destiny or do you believe that you craft your own future!?Answer me Shalaka."N I was left stunned for a moment.


Many a times we feel that some people don't deserve some things.The others are more LUCKIER than us.
FATE,DESTINY,LUCK,GOD,SINS,GOOD DEEDS,HARDWORK!?What does one believe in when we have soo many egs of people who merely got lucky..like for eg,the politicians.. Do you feel they are seriously that qualified to earn so much amount of money that their 7 generations can eat n live in luxury without even working a bit?Do you seriously feel that the kids of rural parts of India or the world were destined to be hungry n begging?When they did nothing wrong to anyone?!Does KARMA exist?is she really a bitch?or just a fair judge?


So my view on it was YES.KARMA exists.She might be a bit late,forgotten about you,very busy..But yes.She does exists.I believe in luck too.Yes,accept it... we all know some people are born lucky.Like Abhishek Bachan... n many star kids..politician kids..etc.But they are lucky because some one at some point has worked enough to give them what they are getting today.So yes.Hardwork also exists.Infact its like the step brother of luck.Now the destiny part of the story.Yes.I believe more in destiny.Because see.. we all are destined to reach a peak in life.What thats going to be is already decided..Lets say by God or the universe who so ever you might believe in.But which path you take thats where hardwork comes into the picture and what you do along the path is where karma comes into place.All humans are machines made by God is what I believe in.He has designed us for some purpose or the other.Thats  the destiny.That is why you are meant to visit an endpoint.Its already decided for you.This explains the unexplained failure in life.BUT.In the case where you have already given 110%.And you have still failed... then might be it was not your fault and destiny intervened.Or you were  really a mean bitch along the way then Karma hit you hard.Maybe we conclude then that this wasn't the the path you were supposed to take.And you have better things laid ahead.
Now hardwork n sincerity play a very important role in deciding was destiny the culprit or you yourself were insufficient.If you do not work towards a goal n then blame luck... you are a coward running from responsibilities.But well if you tried hard 110% 200 times.. yet no success.. Think again... maybe you are at fault.Or maybe you should try something else..a different path or lastly feel free to blame destiny.Yes.She might be there.
I don't like fools crying over luck but I can understand people who have lost their battles with destiny.

So whatever it might be... destiny or your working hands.. both have to go hand in hand for a success.Karma will come n go n for her you need be cautious about your behaviour.So work hard towards your goal n be least bothered about destiny.She has her own way of getting things done from you.And never get dejected.You never know what you maybe having next an ice-cream or an amla candy or a hot chilly!!

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Wordless Wednesday...

Dearest Readers,
I will be posting a picture on every Wednesday.On Wednesdays there won't be any words to describe it or to give your thoughts some direction.Let them run wild and free,based on the picture.So this is it.This is a recent click from my Goa trip...Its the Baga beach.

Good Night folks.. see you tomorrow with some words and some insights.

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Tears are Pearls.

I remember my granny always telling me this that my tears are pearls to her and that real pearls were formed when some God cried or some very pure soul was in distress.
I always found this ideology amazing n fascinating as well.

Isn't it nice to imagine tears are pearls?Pearls are precious.And so are tears..They are not meant to be wasted on some foolish people or unexpected situations or anything for that matter.Like real pearls you should reserve your tears for only those who deserve.

We all cry.C'mon who does not.Grown up men do.Women of all ages do.Its just like their birth right.Whatever the reason...We all cry or have cried at some point or another.Crying is the most common emotion we come across.But crying a lot has a lot of disadvantages and ill effects on the body..however natural the process maybe.Needless to say crying causes brain waves distortion,puffed eyes,dark circles,lost mental balance.But crying is an unavoidable part of all of our lives..because life herself is a bitch many a times.

However,defeating the bitch is in your hands...Crying helped no one n no problems were ever solved with tears.So my friend,the next time you find yourself nearby this little Mr.Not-Invited.. Pick yourself up n don't cry.. whatever the reason might be.Your tears are your pearls.Cherish them and don't let them out in front of anyone and for anything.Wipe your tears because they are valued and if you yourself don't care about them.. who will?

I have seen people cry for the silliest of reasons like their footwear's strap came out .. they cut their hair and din't like it.Anything literally... I feel pity for them because I can see how childishly they are losing their most intense resource.Tears are like pieces of your soul.Don't waste them.Respect yourself.Learn to stand up for yourself.Learn to find solutions for a problem.Crying n tears are never the solvers to any twist life has to offer you.Happy tears or khushi ke asu are allowed... but not gamm ke sagar.


So smile my dearest readers because tomorrows going to be a new day and you will be lucky enough to witness it.And life is too short.SERIOUSLY.to be anything but waterproof(read tears proof)and cheerful.Spread the joy.N enjoy.Don't be the reason for the loss of anyone's pearls.You are a criminal and under arrest then! ;)

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

How busy you are really..eh?

We all are very busy...aren't we?Workplaces,colleges,travelling time,here n there..idhar udhar ki baate vagera vagera...
We often complain that we don't have enough time.For anything and everything.We do nothing the whole day n still we are busy.Time flies.N we give it wings.Many people want 48 hours to a day...Trust me... even they won't be enough.

So why are we ALWAYS.SO.BUSY.?!Often we hear from friends,relatives that they were busy in something so they couldn't be there for you.You guessed it right and no prices for guessing.Its all about priorities.No one.. really.. even Modi is not so busy that they don't have those two mins for replying to your text,or making that call or meeting you up or doing that chore for you.Mind you.NO-ONE.Its actually a matter of where you stand in a person's life which decides how much he/she will be there for you.If they are least bothered about you they will always be busy for you n your ideas.If you are the most important person in their life...they will always have time for you no matter what.Even if they are in front of their boss..they will text you.Even if they are driving...they will call you up..n even after a tiresome day they will meet you.Because they care about you n love you.

The muddle starts where you suddenly drop from number 1 on the priority list to number somewhere around 12-17.You suddenly tend to hear "I am busy,I was busy" thing a lot.This is actually quite alarming... you should try to win over your Mr.Busy or Miss.Busy ASAP or leave him or her alone to find out what exactly they are busy in.. n how long they wish to be busy.

Hearing ""I'm busy"" is actually quite daunting you know.The person on the receiving end is left wondering what went wrong..n feeling extremely sorrowful,confused... n and in anguish and umbrage.The solution is TIMED patience.Meaning... being patient and in hope for only a certain period of time... whatever you are comfortable with.. a month is more than enough I feel for a person to stabilize at least from whatever one is facing.So coming back to the solution.. We all are very intelligent these days n thanks to smart phones we are smart too.So take the hint n behave accordingly.Sense the need to leave alone the busier lot to be busy.And recognize the genuinely busy folks.They will revert back.The others won't,until you do.Just being busy will make you lose people in your life.Do you want to be that bad really?!

Now if you belong to the "I'M ALWAYS SO BUSY" lot... my dear babies.. don't do this to yourself..If you want to avoid a person... refuse directly n politely.Being busy harmed no one but being rude to people did no good.So keep your phones aside and call that friend who might be missing you and text that friend whom you are avoiding for no reason.He might have something nice to say.Go visit your grandparents.All you will receive is love n blessings which you otherwise won't receive by being busy.Make a trip to the gym... you are never really busy for your health basically.All of the above won't take more than 20 mins of yours.Spend this much time for yourself.Meditate.Run for 20 mins.Do what you love for 20 mins.Live.In the moment.Seize it my friend.


So tell me will you read this blog daily??HOW BUSY ARE YOU REALLY..EH?


-Peace n Love
Shalaka

A fun post!!! :D

Dearest Readers,

Extremely sorry about not posting yesterday..blame the voltage problem resulting in no wifi or it was the WEEKEND bitchessss!!:D Well whatever might be the reason I have come with a compensation for my deed.We will do something fun today..Go Go bring a paper n a pen or open notes in your phones.

Answer these 15 thought provoking questions if you can.;-)

1)Do you have a reason to smile right now?
My ans-YES.I'm writing my blog...I'm loving it... :-D n also there are no reasons to frown now.SAY CHEESSEEEEE!!!


2)Do you miss someone currently?Have you texted them recently?
My ans-YES.Yes again..I texted him when I inaugurated the blog.


3)Who would you like to meet?your ancestors or your grandchildren?
My ans-My grandchildren of course.That way I would get a fair idea of whom I'm gonna be marrying!;-)


4)What do you believe in?Love at first site?or a long term friendship turning into a relationship?
My ans-I believe in Attraction at first sight which may or may not turn to love.And that may or may not be permanent.And friendships turning to relationships are the best gift destiny can give you.Those are the best kinds of relationships because you know each other very well and chances of betrayal and failure are less.You always can count on friendship but not attraction.It is volatile.


5)Would you rather explore the ocean or the space?
My ans-Space.I'm bored of this milky way you know!;-)planning on a vacayy in some other parallel earth!:-D


6)What would hurt you the most?People not coming on your wedding?or people not attending your funeral?
My ans-Funeral.Though I wouldn't be able to see who came...my soul would see who all were true to me in my lifetime and who all were just fake.Also I would be able to judge that how many hearts I finally won!So people not attending my funeral would hurt me more.


7)Would you loose your vision or hearing or your feet?
My ans-Hearing would do.People could write things for me.Vision is too important,as well as feet because the life is too short to travel the whole world which I want to do!:-))


8)Would you have a rewind button or a pause button in your life?
My ans-How about a fast-forward button?To skip the bad times?:-D n just Enjoy the jubilant times!


9)Do you collect anything?
My ans-Yes.I used to collect broken pieces of flooring tiles.Sounds weird.Though I liked their shapes and colors.I still possess a collection of about 2000 pieces of tiles.:-)


10)Introvert or Extrovert?
My ans-Extrovert.My life is an open book.Everyone knows everything about me.I'm that transparent n crystal clear.Happy being this way.


11)Lose your house,cellphone or lover?
My ans-Anything but Lover.He is my whole n soul strength.With him I can build several houses n phone isn't a big deal!


12)What's the wallpaper of your computer?
My ans-The picture I post for every post.I change it daily.Just like my blog!:-)


13)Are you having the same career you dreamt of as a child?
My ans-NO.I wanted to become a scientist or an actress.Now most happy choosing engineering. :-D


14)Which city would you visit right now?
My ans-P.A.R.I.S. Undoubtedly. Definitely.Where is my flight ticket?


15)Cold chocolate or hot soup?
My ans-Cold chocolate or chocolate in any form.I have a sweet tooth.WAIT.32 sweeeeet teeeth! :-D

So go ahead n tell me what are your answers!Enjoyed it?Let me Know...Happy Sunday folks..Be prepared for a MONDAY!See you tomorrow!

-Peace and Love
Shalaka

The face of your Fear.
Horror movies.Ghosts.Haunted places.Zombies?!
Is this fear?No.
According to me there is more to fear than this.
People are afraid of snakes,insects certain animals,heights,deep waters,darkness etc.
But my greatest fear is when people change.
When people leave your world or this world.Whenever a person close to you changes his or her nature... its difficult to accept.When things were going on smoothly and efficiently..there comes a sudden halt and the change is of such a degree that you can't even recognise that person anymore.It was as if you have had a beautiful dream which either turns to a nightmare or you simply wake up.This scares the shit out of me.I can't believe my eyes n my heart can't even function.I get a very ill feeling of my heart left hanging in the air.Another worst thing to happen to a person is the DEATH.Of a loved one.It again sends down a chill on my spine...the way people are just packed up to a wooden something,wrapped in cloth n just sent away to burn down to ashes.Its like they are no more a person now,..They are just a thing.

Even you must have experienced both of my greatest fears...
People change,priorities change.What remains are the stupid memories behind to haunt you for a life time.Uncertainity hurts.Looking into the future gives goosebumps.Infact we are surrounded by fear everywhere.You never know whom you thought to be your best friend might just stab you in the back,or the elder woman next door you spoke to,was probably your last talk.

So what do we do in such times....
Firstly protect your heart... its the most delicate thing ever made.Create a shield of confidence around it n a sense of belief.
Step 2.Remain true to yourself n encourage others to be the same..Love unconditionally..so that atleast looking at you people will feel guilty for their ill deeds n betrayals.
n Lastly pray for everyone's well being n health.

n my tip-Don't Overthink!Life has its ways n means to provide you with lots of happiness(if you have done good n you are well deserving.)N Don't be afraid of anything.. Face life with your bitch mode on!What goes around will definately come around!So tell me...how does your fear look?

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Free Happiness anyone??:))
Dearest Readers,
Here I'm back again... to greet you all...so how was your day?gloomy?busy?exciting?
However it might have been...did u make someone happy today?For that,were you happy with yourself?or plainly...just tooo busy running behind the clock?!

Everybody today is fighting a battle..we don't know off...we judge people unknowingly...we call them stupid,we call them fat,we make fun of their financial background...we hurt people n don't even notice the pain in their eyes.My dearest friends...let us take a moment n think on this... If we can't help someone in their struggle...we can at least make them smile when they are going through the treacherous process.So here I'm with quick n easy solutions for you...


5 Best ways to make someone HAPPY:-

1.Smile-at each n every accquintance you see...n if you notice its someone's rainy day.. just Hug the person n without enquiring about the problem tell him/her..its going to be alright.


2.Compliment people-Might be on their old dress itself... but make sure if you like something about someone..stop n appreciate...the person does feel loved n motivated.

3.Do some extra work on your part-It might be as simple as pulling a chair..or helping n daily work..or maybe just handing out some money..or helping in whatever way you can.Do it.Now.

4.FOOD. The best way to anybody's heart is food..bring it on... make something..buy something for all your co-workers...n wooho... you have won a million hearts!:)

5.Last but not the least...Do not spread negativity for no reason..Live happily n let others do so.Listen to people if they have to share.Care about everyone.Don't sulk..show attitude of any kind,No neglect..n treat all with love n sympathy.

If you follow these simple mantras...just see
how easy your life becomes,..n mostly how happy you become.Inner peace is the most important aspect of your life.By spreading happiness around you,you are making the world a better place n you will notice how you will have lesser fights n more friends.SO go ahead.. start right now... n MANUFACTURE SOME HAPPINESS.Free of cost.

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Lover,Shh...,Dating
The moment I use the word LOVER...someone must have popped up in your mind.Oh wait...was it just one or many?Even if the count went above just one,even if it was one true and half a crush...Welcome to the 21st century.

Well the problem starts with the end of 1st true love.. n well let me tell you if its 1st love it has to end!(**If you are still with your first love,still better you both are childhood sweethearts...GO GET MARRIED and don't come back here** :D).So if your beautiful Yash Chopra's film set,with KJo as a director & Switzerland shooting location,Chiffon saris & SRK like handsome prince and "place any heroine's name you like"like princess has ended...Welcome to the club of 83% people around the world.The story actually starts with the innocent guy's heart being taken away(read crushed,stamped upon,destroyed to pieces)by the bad-ass,sexy,over-smart bitch & with the innocent girl's heart being taken away(read changed forever,ignored,broken..n blah)by the dude of the crowd with eyes that could kill and who is a total heart wrecker with his charming talks.

The conclusion point is the generation today can remain in love only until their 1st breakup happens.What follows next is series of cigarettes,drunken sailors,drug addicts,loss of character and most importantly loss of hope in life and loss of faith in love.This is a very serious problem of today where this generation guys and girls CANNOT STAY IN LOVE!:( The prime reason being the hurt their innocence received and the way their Yash Chopra dream set was set on fire.And if its your 1st breakup,things are worse.Girls leave guys for their lack of cash,for caste or unwillingness to adjust or simply "I don't love you anymore reason"(read utter bullshit).Guys leave girls for maybe because they can't find her sexy anymore(read he saw a model like babe) or simply  "I don't love you anymore reason"(read utter bullshit).So whatever magic the guy & girl saw in the eyes of each other,the love they felt in the 1st kiss,the company they couldn't live without is lost more quickly than the expiring date of their 1st gift.
My Question-WHY SO?

Everybody today should try to remain in love and stay happy that way.If you have your 1st love with you,please stay with him/her.Yes,there will be nasty fights,there will be another one whose cuter,smarter, & the one "who understands you more".But just because some thing new glittered in your life don't forget your real gold.Try to work things out instead of fighting and abusing and finally breaking up.Take your ego levels down.Basically I believe there should not be terms like boyfriend/girlfriend,casual dating etc.It should be replaced by my future husband,wife,dreaming of marriage soon.Only one man/woman that too forever and after.And then God makes this belief of yours crash.What you do next is important,don't search for someone to get over your ex.You yourself are powerful enough to overcome that shit.Wait for your next lover to come to you & hold on tight to him/her.Improve the mistakes you made in your last relationship.Introspect,grow up and grow out of it.

My whole and soul message is "Don't fall out of love so soon guys...Don't fall in soon too".Think about all the angles of it before you enter a relationship.Cross check 1st time itself whether it will be worth your time,money and mental state.See,prevention is better than cure!;-)
Jumping from one relation to other and hurting yourself and others is easy.Casual dating is easy.What is not easy is compromises,adjustments,saying the 1st sorry after a fight,waiting for a person to come back after a breakup.Try to work on the gold 1st and even after a year it doesn't work n you simply feel it was brass scrap you loved :-D..then move on with a shield around your heart towards the glitter you saw.It might be a diamond or a piece of shinning glass you never know!:-))

-Peace n Love
Shalaka

Beginnings....
Beginnings are the best part of a story,
Because you are ready to explore something new,& venture out into the unknown and there is no past or history!
You don't know whats next,a turn or a straight road or a bump or a beautiful scenery awaiting.
Beginnings are like a butterfly emerging out of its cocoon and life itself recreating.

Beginnings are happiness..
Beginnings are ecstasy..
Beginnings are challenges..
Beginnings are wonderful..!

Beginnings are the end of an end.
Beginnings are a new start..
Beginnings indicate freshness,liveliness,n assurance of a brighter light.
Beginnings are HOPE.


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Dearest Readers,
Today I have pledged to write my own blog and here I am writing the very first post.Blogging was always on my mind and so is becoming an author.But as they say "Start with a hill and you'll easily climb a mountain."So I felt as I carry my heart on my shoulders and I feel too much about every little thing...why not just jot it down?It will help me sort out and you can here judge me freely!I'm all excited and geared up to pour my heart to you all and I hope you are willing to listen to atleast a few whispers.
I would want to post daily and would love to show you all my poems,artwork,thoughts n anything I find fascinating!So I request you all to Keep Reading,Keep Expressing and pssss.-commenting to let me know what you feel! :-)