Dearest Readers,
Now that we will almost end our love themed posts,I thought of the recent breakup that my friend had gone through.Sometimes,how much ever hard you try to keep your relationship intact,things fall apart.Breakups happen everyday.They are like the carbon dioxide in the air.You can feel it everywhere.Everyday or at least every two days I see some around me,in my college,my best friend,the friend at the gym has either broken up completely or on the verge of it.Breakups are as natural as sex is!
Now somehow due to the constant occurrence of breakups here and there,I had to analyse this situation.WHY do breakups happen?In spite of two people giving those happily ever after promises to each other,after putting up such close selfies that one can't be cropped out.Now my logic and my theory on breakups is simple.Its actually what my best friend still keeps telling me.Breakups simply happen due to the lack of will from one of the parties.Quite simple to understand,right?Whatever might be the situation if that other person "CHANGES" you can't change a shit about the situation.If that other person gives up on you,stops liking you,feels that the relationship has gotten boring,you can't help yourself just by cursing the destiny.LACK OF WILL/INTEREST/LOVE.TICK.
Now second most common reason for breakups is cheating.Adultery.Going out with someone else.I hate this part of the story.I can't understand the theory where if you already in love with a person then how can you love someone else?If you fell in love with the 2nd person its obvious you didn't love the 1st.And in that case you should inform the first person about this.Talk it out with him/her while you are getting attracted.Work on your relationship.If everything else fails then and then only mutually breakup which will hurt less to the both of you.Leaving one party totally unaware ruins their life.At least think once about the person whom you loved so much.Inform what's wrong.SO CHEATING.TICK.
Long distance relationships.Now these are the most difficult and delicate type of relationships.I could literally do another post on it.But the long distance and the lack of communication,followed by series of misunderstanding is what leads to a breakup.LONG-DISTANCE.TICK.
PHYSICAL VIOLENCE or ABUSE.Enough said.If you are in such a type of relationship please I beg you don't do this to yourself and get out of it ASAP.
FORCED RELATIONSHIPS.These are the types of relationship you might have had in your school days.Due to peer pressure,or for the sake flaunting the fact that you have a gf/bf.Such relationships don't last and are born with no future.
CONSTANT DISAGREEMENTS.The fatigue that comes out of this is huge and thus is followed by cheating and results in breakups.
GOT NO FUTURE issue.This is the most common issue in India.Many couples commit suicide over the fact that their caste is not same.They believe,probably they know that they won't marry each other and thus they breakup instead of working things out,convincing parents,relatives or simply moving out of that place.I know probably things are not so simple but if they knew this issue was existing,why get in a relationship and hurt yourself so badly in the first place?
But what if everything was picture perfect?What if our family backgrounds matched?Your parents liked that person,you were childhood sweethearts,you had dated for 10 years,you were just made for each other AND then that person CHANGES and leaves you.Completely unaware.Right naked in the destiny's face.Then it is called as DESTINY for you.And this type of breakup is the worst.You have nowhere to run.You have a full fledged life in front of you and all of a sudden your dreams which you built around that person CRASH down.Like a house of cards.What if this is going to haunt you for the rest of your life?Welcome to the world my friend,welcome to the world once you were told about is the best thing to happen to you.
-Peace and love
Shalaka
Now that we will almost end our love themed posts,I thought of the recent breakup that my friend had gone through.Sometimes,how much ever hard you try to keep your relationship intact,things fall apart.Breakups happen everyday.They are like the carbon dioxide in the air.You can feel it everywhere.Everyday or at least every two days I see some around me,in my college,my best friend,the friend at the gym has either broken up completely or on the verge of it.Breakups are as natural as sex is!
Now somehow due to the constant occurrence of breakups here and there,I had to analyse this situation.WHY do breakups happen?In spite of two people giving those happily ever after promises to each other,after putting up such close selfies that one can't be cropped out.Now my logic and my theory on breakups is simple.Its actually what my best friend still keeps telling me.Breakups simply happen due to the lack of will from one of the parties.Quite simple to understand,right?Whatever might be the situation if that other person "CHANGES" you can't change a shit about the situation.If that other person gives up on you,stops liking you,feels that the relationship has gotten boring,you can't help yourself just by cursing the destiny.LACK OF WILL/INTEREST/LOVE.TICK.
Now second most common reason for breakups is cheating.Adultery.Going out with someone else.I hate this part of the story.I can't understand the theory where if you already in love with a person then how can you love someone else?If you fell in love with the 2nd person its obvious you didn't love the 1st.And in that case you should inform the first person about this.Talk it out with him/her while you are getting attracted.Work on your relationship.If everything else fails then and then only mutually breakup which will hurt less to the both of you.Leaving one party totally unaware ruins their life.At least think once about the person whom you loved so much.Inform what's wrong.SO CHEATING.TICK.
Long distance relationships.Now these are the most difficult and delicate type of relationships.I could literally do another post on it.But the long distance and the lack of communication,followed by series of misunderstanding is what leads to a breakup.LONG-DISTANCE.TICK.
PHYSICAL VIOLENCE or ABUSE.Enough said.If you are in such a type of relationship please I beg you don't do this to yourself and get out of it ASAP.
FORCED RELATIONSHIPS.These are the types of relationship you might have had in your school days.Due to peer pressure,or for the sake flaunting the fact that you have a gf/bf.Such relationships don't last and are born with no future.
CONSTANT DISAGREEMENTS.The fatigue that comes out of this is huge and thus is followed by cheating and results in breakups.
GOT NO FUTURE issue.This is the most common issue in India.Many couples commit suicide over the fact that their caste is not same.They believe,probably they know that they won't marry each other and thus they breakup instead of working things out,convincing parents,relatives or simply moving out of that place.I know probably things are not so simple but if they knew this issue was existing,why get in a relationship and hurt yourself so badly in the first place?
But what if everything was picture perfect?What if our family backgrounds matched?Your parents liked that person,you were childhood sweethearts,you had dated for 10 years,you were just made for each other AND then that person CHANGES and leaves you.Completely unaware.Right naked in the destiny's face.Then it is called as DESTINY for you.And this type of breakup is the worst.You have nowhere to run.You have a full fledged life in front of you and all of a sudden your dreams which you built around that person CRASH down.Like a house of cards.What if this is going to haunt you for the rest of your life?Welcome to the world my friend,welcome to the world once you were told about is the best thing to happen to you.
-Peace and love
Shalaka
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