Dearest Readers,
As we are talking on relationships and before moving on to more spicy topics,this is one thing I would like to touch upon.Fights in a relationship.They are such a big turn off for me.Why fights happen is that part of story we all have learnt by heart now.But what happens to your relationship after one fight,a series of fights,a series of not so serious breakups is what is worth pondering upon.
The depth of a fight is directly proportional to the love in the couple is what I feel.I consider the following fights as serious fights.One-Abusing and physical abuse.And this is actually a thing many couples indulge during a small fight but later how dare you hit me also comes in place.This type of relations must be quit immediately however hard,like smoking they may seem.A big NO.
Fights related to family and issues.These are those types wherein a family gets involved and a serious decision must be taken reguarding a relationship which has gone so wrong.Fights which has a partner involved in serious cheating like sex or kiss.Flirty messages may also be viewed serious.Apart from that what I call the average reason for fights is not wishing on anniversaries and birthdays.It simply shows your negligence towards your partner.Apart from that "Baby ne mere liye gift nahi laya.Baby muzhe party main nahi leke gaya"and all such other girly bullshit is bullshit.A fight over that must not lead to a breakup.Or I guess if your girl is too girly for you to handle rethink on your choice.As also if your guy is too possessive over a simple friend of yours time to stop him and the fight.
It is said that you don't value a thing untill it is gone.And trust me I feel so sad for the time I have wasted fighting with my best friends.You lose a lot of precious time which you could have spent in each other's arms instead of fighting.Once that person has gone from your life you will have nothing but regret.So stop fighting.Whatever the issue.Big or small.Sort it.Work upon it.Don't let the flame of your love die.Don't let love itself die.If you realise that even 1% it is your mistake say a sorry.Nothing wrong with that.I know a lot of girls complain that they are ones saying sorry after a fight but if your man does not say a sorry,like never,time to sit across a table and discuss things.EGO.A three letter word destroying relationships,since forever.Drop that.Think what is important.That person or yourself.Take love above all.Respect each other and your relationship more than anything else.Remember that time when you 1st kissed.Never forget the real reason why you got toghether.Make a nice board of it and put it in your bedroom.
I also know things get unacceptable at times and decide how much is too much for both of you.Do this right in the start of the relationship.Some cute fights also add spice to your life but at what rate is important.A fight in 3 weeks is what I consider normal,a no fight situation sounds dreamy and unhealthy for me.That way you lose the butterflies in your stomach when you see your partner coming running for you.Decide that you don't want to breakup and make this a successful relationship.Afterall who doesn't fight?
Give her those bouquets,chocolates,sorry text messages,45 calls,a collage of your old pictures and here again you will be back ruling her heart.Give him a kiss or turn up naked.That will do the needful I guess(a sincere sorry will also do).God bless you all.
-Peace n Love
Shalaka
As we are talking on relationships and before moving on to more spicy topics,this is one thing I would like to touch upon.Fights in a relationship.They are such a big turn off for me.Why fights happen is that part of story we all have learnt by heart now.But what happens to your relationship after one fight,a series of fights,a series of not so serious breakups is what is worth pondering upon.
The depth of a fight is directly proportional to the love in the couple is what I feel.I consider the following fights as serious fights.One-Abusing and physical abuse.And this is actually a thing many couples indulge during a small fight but later how dare you hit me also comes in place.This type of relations must be quit immediately however hard,like smoking they may seem.A big NO.
Fights related to family and issues.These are those types wherein a family gets involved and a serious decision must be taken reguarding a relationship which has gone so wrong.Fights which has a partner involved in serious cheating like sex or kiss.Flirty messages may also be viewed serious.Apart from that what I call the average reason for fights is not wishing on anniversaries and birthdays.It simply shows your negligence towards your partner.Apart from that "Baby ne mere liye gift nahi laya.Baby muzhe party main nahi leke gaya"and all such other girly bullshit is bullshit.A fight over that must not lead to a breakup.Or I guess if your girl is too girly for you to handle rethink on your choice.As also if your guy is too possessive over a simple friend of yours time to stop him and the fight.
It is said that you don't value a thing untill it is gone.And trust me I feel so sad for the time I have wasted fighting with my best friends.You lose a lot of precious time which you could have spent in each other's arms instead of fighting.Once that person has gone from your life you will have nothing but regret.So stop fighting.Whatever the issue.Big or small.Sort it.Work upon it.Don't let the flame of your love die.Don't let love itself die.If you realise that even 1% it is your mistake say a sorry.Nothing wrong with that.I know a lot of girls complain that they are ones saying sorry after a fight but if your man does not say a sorry,like never,time to sit across a table and discuss things.EGO.A three letter word destroying relationships,since forever.Drop that.Think what is important.That person or yourself.Take love above all.Respect each other and your relationship more than anything else.Remember that time when you 1st kissed.Never forget the real reason why you got toghether.Make a nice board of it and put it in your bedroom.
I also know things get unacceptable at times and decide how much is too much for both of you.Do this right in the start of the relationship.Some cute fights also add spice to your life but at what rate is important.A fight in 3 weeks is what I consider normal,a no fight situation sounds dreamy and unhealthy for me.That way you lose the butterflies in your stomach when you see your partner coming running for you.Decide that you don't want to breakup and make this a successful relationship.Afterall who doesn't fight?
Give her those bouquets,chocolates,sorry text messages,45 calls,a collage of your old pictures and here again you will be back ruling her heart.Give him a kiss or turn up naked.That will do the needful I guess(a sincere sorry will also do).God bless you all.
-Peace n Love
Shalaka
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