Dearest Readers,
First of all,a very happy woman's day to all those sexy ladies out there!!Love yourself enough!
Today we begin with our love themed posts.So to begin with I remember Kuch Kuch Hota Hai's famous dialogue by SRK,"Pyaar dosti hai!"And trust me I never used to believe it.Actually my whole life can be divided into two phases one which says friendship and love are two different things completely and the other which says they are the two sides of the same coin.Earlier I had an idea of love wherein I believed that love=love at first sight.I would see a nice handsome guy walk down the road and fell head over heels for him.I stalked him on every social media platform and finally gave up when we had nothing in common.Love was when I saw SRK proposing his co star.Love was when my prince charming would come on a white horse with a ring.Bollywood spoils you actually.Your thinking and expectations.Even boys expect their crushes to appear in chiffon saris swaying in the air and with violins and all that blah.
However maturity and reality struck me hard...only to realise that white horse will be replaced by a bike and my man will be one of my close friends whom I see daily,trust him completely and someone who can be my best friend first.So as you grow over Bollywood phase you slowly realise its better to have your best friend as your boyfriend than to fall in that huge risk of love at first sight.Of course there are exceptions where maybe things work out between such people also.But I question the duration of their relationships.
So basically,Crushes.Some intelligent person has named the word right.Crush.Because they do crush your hearts.Admit it,we have been having crushes since 7th-8th grade.And how many of you are with your 1st crush tell me.So the thing about a crush is just like the love at first sight wala scene.You don't know that person well.Yet you experience this strange kind of attraction toward him or her.But in my opinion a crush is 75% based on looks.Thats what we find amusing about a person.Thats how we notice him or her.Then remaining 25% is personality,voice,general behaviour or some particular habit etc.
According to a study,56% of the attraction towards a crush dies within a week.I doubt how much will remain till the time you actually go and talk to that person,confirm if the feelings are reciprocated and finally you get into a relationship.Also,this love,this chasing your crush phase of life is very dangerous as it can be addictive and later heartbreaking.Love is a GAMBLE.It is like that board game where you try and hit the arrow in the centre.If you get it right you get lucky,if not with your arrow your general feelings about love go down.People who claim they don't love love are the results of unreciprocated love.One sided crushes.
So my whole point of the story is,having a crush is a fun thing and it actually helps you keep running in this mundane life.But if things get too serious and mind you these hearty matters are very delicate.It takes no time to fall seriously.And get hurt.You endup sometimes hating love,hating the other gender,hating the world,your beautiful body and what not.So if you have a crush in your life my friend,just make sure whether even you are his/her crush.Otherwise be prepared for a huge showdown or breakdown in life.A crush as the name suggests can crush you totally.Stay strong before you know "really taking the plunge".But I am not scaring you.You may take a risk but make sure its worth it.Lastly to conclude I would say look at that best friend of yours whom you have been friend zoning or that guy in group who really compliments you,or someone in your workplace whom comes and genuinely makes an effort to strike up a conversation with you.There are no real life Prince and Princess charming my friends.Your better half could be someone whom you have been ignoring.His or her looks might not be that great but he or she can make a great life partner.Shed your expectations.Shed your crushes.Its time to get real.Find out who loves you.Truly.And not just treats you as a crush which will fade over time.Love should last.Love should not crush.
Peace n Love
-Shalaka
First of all,a very happy woman's day to all those sexy ladies out there!!Love yourself enough!
Today we begin with our love themed posts.So to begin with I remember Kuch Kuch Hota Hai's famous dialogue by SRK,"Pyaar dosti hai!"And trust me I never used to believe it.Actually my whole life can be divided into two phases one which says friendship and love are two different things completely and the other which says they are the two sides of the same coin.Earlier I had an idea of love wherein I believed that love=love at first sight.I would see a nice handsome guy walk down the road and fell head over heels for him.I stalked him on every social media platform and finally gave up when we had nothing in common.Love was when I saw SRK proposing his co star.Love was when my prince charming would come on a white horse with a ring.Bollywood spoils you actually.Your thinking and expectations.Even boys expect their crushes to appear in chiffon saris swaying in the air and with violins and all that blah.
However maturity and reality struck me hard...only to realise that white horse will be replaced by a bike and my man will be one of my close friends whom I see daily,trust him completely and someone who can be my best friend first.So as you grow over Bollywood phase you slowly realise its better to have your best friend as your boyfriend than to fall in that huge risk of love at first sight.Of course there are exceptions where maybe things work out between such people also.But I question the duration of their relationships.
So basically,Crushes.Some intelligent person has named the word right.Crush.Because they do crush your hearts.Admit it,we have been having crushes since 7th-8th grade.And how many of you are with your 1st crush tell me.So the thing about a crush is just like the love at first sight wala scene.You don't know that person well.Yet you experience this strange kind of attraction toward him or her.But in my opinion a crush is 75% based on looks.Thats what we find amusing about a person.Thats how we notice him or her.Then remaining 25% is personality,voice,general behaviour or some particular habit etc.
According to a study,56% of the attraction towards a crush dies within a week.I doubt how much will remain till the time you actually go and talk to that person,confirm if the feelings are reciprocated and finally you get into a relationship.Also,this love,this chasing your crush phase of life is very dangerous as it can be addictive and later heartbreaking.Love is a GAMBLE.It is like that board game where you try and hit the arrow in the centre.If you get it right you get lucky,if not with your arrow your general feelings about love go down.People who claim they don't love love are the results of unreciprocated love.One sided crushes.
So my whole point of the story is,having a crush is a fun thing and it actually helps you keep running in this mundane life.But if things get too serious and mind you these hearty matters are very delicate.It takes no time to fall seriously.And get hurt.You endup sometimes hating love,hating the other gender,hating the world,your beautiful body and what not.So if you have a crush in your life my friend,just make sure whether even you are his/her crush.Otherwise be prepared for a huge showdown or breakdown in life.A crush as the name suggests can crush you totally.Stay strong before you know "really taking the plunge".But I am not scaring you.You may take a risk but make sure its worth it.Lastly to conclude I would say look at that best friend of yours whom you have been friend zoning or that guy in group who really compliments you,or someone in your workplace whom comes and genuinely makes an effort to strike up a conversation with you.There are no real life Prince and Princess charming my friends.Your better half could be someone whom you have been ignoring.His or her looks might not be that great but he or she can make a great life partner.Shed your expectations.Shed your crushes.Its time to get real.Find out who loves you.Truly.And not just treats you as a crush which will fade over time.Love should last.Love should not crush.
Peace n Love
-Shalaka
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