Dearest Readers,
Here I am.How was your day?Did you at least smile once?With true feelings in your heart?Good.
Hmmm.... So today I would like to tell you something which happened a few days ago.I had an enemy.Ok.Everyone has one.A person whom you hate a lot.Who did something which hurt you terribly.Broke your heart in pieces.Often times are such and the world is so small,you somehow end up coming face to face with that person.Maybe say..after you have stopped talking to them a long time ago.You know that person was at complete fault.They know it too.No apologies were given or maybe if they were things took a sad turn and whatever was ended.
Now somehow this person comes in front of you and shouts from across the road..."HI!!!!!HOW ARE YOU?WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE"(technically we were on the road..what was I doing here...swimming probably.)I pretended that I couldn't hear her and I was praying to God that somehow the earth should swallow me.But no such luck.She just comes and starts talking you as if you met yesterday.Whatever happened in the past didn't even happen.When on the other hand...all I could think was how she had made my mother cry.She comes,she waves,she talks and talks...and I end up giving a few nods,and nos and excuse of leaving early.This was incident no.1.My bad luck,she crossed my path many times and started talking as if we two were the same old besties that we were.But for me things had changed.I wasn't feeling the same about her.But she was persistent to talk to me.I always felt,was she really that shameless to come back to same plate we ate together in and then she peed on it!Or was she really missing me and was apologetic about what had happened and wanted me back in her life.I could not make out the difference.She had lost my trust.Even behind that simple hello,I was searching for her good or bad intentions.
But after that 5th encounter,I don't know whether its my forgiving nature or my pure soul but I could tolerate her.Slowly I also started talking to her and giving a less fake smile.She has not said a sorry till date.But she behaves as if nothing happened.Even I am confused as to what should I do?Should I let go and feel free and wander around as if nothing happened?Or should I go n slap her asking her to give me and my mom a f##king apology?
Usually,I am a person who does keep things in mind.Good or bad.I keep a record of every small thing.I don't know if it is good or bad,but I tend to do.After talking to lot of common friends of mine all of them told me to leave that topic.Even the group was suffering because of our lack of communication.So I guess I have given up.On that grudge.On the fact that she left me alone.Crying.When I had no one.How she made false allegation.I have just given up.Fact is even I have missed her.But I guess the hurt and your ego empowers your feelings about friendship.The best relationship in the world.I have decided not to show any hate towards her especially when she has taken the initiative to talk.Ofcourse I am no God to forgive completely.Nor have I forgotten what she did.But just to ease that stupid burden from my life,I have started giving her a smile and a few formal hellos.You know what my dearest readers,my late granny used to tell me a story that there was a very emotional man who used to get hurt easily and got angry quickly.So his friend told him to take a stone and put it in a bag everytime he was feeling low about a person.At the end of the month he had a sack full of stones and carried it everywhere.Those stones,those grudges were becoming a load for him.So he threw stone by stone in the river and forgave the people who played with his heart.He was feeling much lighter by the end of another month.So this is what anger and ill feelings and jealousy does this to you my friends.It overloads you.That a##h##e person is still living around happily even after what they did to you.You are one who has this load of memories and hurt and blah.
So just throw all your stones of ill feelings in the river.Forget first.And then forgive.And then simply move on.From that part of your life.I know its easy to say but not to follow.But trust me.Its not as difficult as you think.I have applied this to not one but many idiots of my life.I am not saying that forgive that person and start talking as you did but just let go from your side.Don't think about it.That person may not give a sorry,may not come back to you but if she/he does just tell him/her..things won't go back to way they were but I forgive you.Make yourself higher.
Unfortunately,in this bad bad world outside some or the other person has hurt us.Wrecked us.Destroyed our hearts.But its time you fly higher than these things.If you have someone like this,message that person today itself,even if they have broken contact with you that I won't think about you even in my wildest dreams.Have a great life ahead.And if someone has apologised to you(lucky you) resort to formal hellos.Just let go.Be free inside.Life is short.
Forgive.It also takes courage.Are you ready for it?
Peace n Love
-Shalaka
Here I am.How was your day?Did you at least smile once?With true feelings in your heart?Good.
Hmmm.... So today I would like to tell you something which happened a few days ago.I had an enemy.Ok.Everyone has one.A person whom you hate a lot.Who did something which hurt you terribly.Broke your heart in pieces.Often times are such and the world is so small,you somehow end up coming face to face with that person.Maybe say..after you have stopped talking to them a long time ago.You know that person was at complete fault.They know it too.No apologies were given or maybe if they were things took a sad turn and whatever was ended.
Now somehow this person comes in front of you and shouts from across the road..."HI!!!!!HOW ARE YOU?WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE"(technically we were on the road..what was I doing here...swimming probably.)I pretended that I couldn't hear her and I was praying to God that somehow the earth should swallow me.But no such luck.She just comes and starts talking you as if you met yesterday.Whatever happened in the past didn't even happen.When on the other hand...all I could think was how she had made my mother cry.She comes,she waves,she talks and talks...and I end up giving a few nods,and nos and excuse of leaving early.This was incident no.1.My bad luck,she crossed my path many times and started talking as if we two were the same old besties that we were.But for me things had changed.I wasn't feeling the same about her.But she was persistent to talk to me.I always felt,was she really that shameless to come back to same plate we ate together in and then she peed on it!Or was she really missing me and was apologetic about what had happened and wanted me back in her life.I could not make out the difference.She had lost my trust.Even behind that simple hello,I was searching for her good or bad intentions.
But after that 5th encounter,I don't know whether its my forgiving nature or my pure soul but I could tolerate her.Slowly I also started talking to her and giving a less fake smile.She has not said a sorry till date.But she behaves as if nothing happened.Even I am confused as to what should I do?Should I let go and feel free and wander around as if nothing happened?Or should I go n slap her asking her to give me and my mom a f##king apology?
Usually,I am a person who does keep things in mind.Good or bad.I keep a record of every small thing.I don't know if it is good or bad,but I tend to do.After talking to lot of common friends of mine all of them told me to leave that topic.Even the group was suffering because of our lack of communication.So I guess I have given up.On that grudge.On the fact that she left me alone.Crying.When I had no one.How she made false allegation.I have just given up.Fact is even I have missed her.But I guess the hurt and your ego empowers your feelings about friendship.The best relationship in the world.I have decided not to show any hate towards her especially when she has taken the initiative to talk.Ofcourse I am no God to forgive completely.Nor have I forgotten what she did.But just to ease that stupid burden from my life,I have started giving her a smile and a few formal hellos.You know what my dearest readers,my late granny used to tell me a story that there was a very emotional man who used to get hurt easily and got angry quickly.So his friend told him to take a stone and put it in a bag everytime he was feeling low about a person.At the end of the month he had a sack full of stones and carried it everywhere.Those stones,those grudges were becoming a load for him.So he threw stone by stone in the river and forgave the people who played with his heart.He was feeling much lighter by the end of another month.So this is what anger and ill feelings and jealousy does this to you my friends.It overloads you.That a##h##e person is still living around happily even after what they did to you.You are one who has this load of memories and hurt and blah.
So just throw all your stones of ill feelings in the river.Forget first.And then forgive.And then simply move on.From that part of your life.I know its easy to say but not to follow.But trust me.Its not as difficult as you think.I have applied this to not one but many idiots of my life.I am not saying that forgive that person and start talking as you did but just let go from your side.Don't think about it.That person may not give a sorry,may not come back to you but if she/he does just tell him/her..things won't go back to way they were but I forgive you.Make yourself higher.
Unfortunately,in this bad bad world outside some or the other person has hurt us.Wrecked us.Destroyed our hearts.But its time you fly higher than these things.If you have someone like this,message that person today itself,even if they have broken contact with you that I won't think about you even in my wildest dreams.Have a great life ahead.And if someone has apologised to you(lucky you) resort to formal hellos.Just let go.Be free inside.Life is short.
Forgive.It also takes courage.Are you ready for it?
Peace n Love
-Shalaka
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