Dearest Readers,
How is the week going on?Hectic?Busy?Boring?Mine was a combination of the all above.
I had read a few days back that the person whom we remember in the busiest of times is the person we actually miss/love/care about,not the one whom we give time when we have time.This is so true.Sometimes in the busy day,while you are the coffee machine smoking a cigarette or having a coffee or just when you have that 5 min break between lectures whom do you think about?On particularly gloomy days...for me,all those sad memories come running for me.Those stupid sad memories which I want to desperately forget but they won't leave me alone.Even some places or things remind you of those memories.Memories of your ex.After a breakup.How much a break up is painful is a too painful topic for me to write on.I prefer keeping that upto you.But then like what happens after death is a big question,so is what happens after a breakup.
Whether you get into another relationship,whether you are happy being single and hating those cheesy couples present on every corner of the street.... Are you still friends with your ex?is a question which remains.I think the answer to this is quite simple.If your relationship started with a great friendship and you were great friends and only because you got physically desperate and then into a relationship then chances of you remaining friends with your ex friend is higher.Some friends after breakup scenes are also possible if he/she happens to be your family friend or relative.Otherwise I don't think many of us are friends with our exs.Basically for me..a breakup would mean lots of hurt and a strong reason for a breakup involved.That is why friends with an ex would probably mean a bad idea for me.It would be like wearing that same old dirty underwear.Being friends would mean meeting at times,hell meeting on the same places where we went out on dates...and then controlling your feelings which you have overcome after such efforts would all go in vain.It would mean a rush of sorrow every time I saw him.It would mean trying and not kissing him or touching him accidentally.It would mean cursing my destiny and luck and retrospecting again n again as to why we did not make it.It would mean 100% of my mental strength,50% of water in my body and a good night's sleep would be wasted.
But one part of me also says that Yes,what if did not work out.Atleast I can see him once a month.Get to know what he is doing in life.Get a hug probably.My stupid little heart which is still crazy for him will do a salsa in the heart.I would think that probably..do we still have a chance?But the real problem starts when your ex is no more single and has moved on.You can be friends if you both are single.It would probably mean that you both still love each other.But if one is single and other is not,jealous,why not me feelings start to come in and its really disturbing.To the friendship,to your mind.Everything.And if you both are commited and friends..now that would need a great deal of maturity and understanding.It will be like unicorns,..everybody has heard about it.Nobody has ever felt it.
So exs are called exs for a reason.There are reasons why they are not in your life.It is very difficult for you to remain friends if you have not moved on enough.And sometimes this enough is not enough even for a lifetime.Heartbreaks are such.Love is that sweet poison.Happens.Are you friends with your ex?If you are...oh boy,you are like the lucky unicorns that,that your ex still cares about you even after a breakup.You have a true friend there.It means that you both were always ment to be in contact.Congratulations.Its a happy end to a relation.I wish all the relations had such endings,instead of all that awful,bloody hurt in the end.So friends with ex or no friends?You still talk?just talk or even meet?Tell me whats your story.
-Peace and love
Shalaka
How is the week going on?Hectic?Busy?Boring?Mine was a combination of the all above.
I had read a few days back that the person whom we remember in the busiest of times is the person we actually miss/love/care about,not the one whom we give time when we have time.This is so true.Sometimes in the busy day,while you are the coffee machine smoking a cigarette or having a coffee or just when you have that 5 min break between lectures whom do you think about?On particularly gloomy days...for me,all those sad memories come running for me.Those stupid sad memories which I want to desperately forget but they won't leave me alone.Even some places or things remind you of those memories.Memories of your ex.After a breakup.How much a break up is painful is a too painful topic for me to write on.I prefer keeping that upto you.But then like what happens after death is a big question,so is what happens after a breakup.
Whether you get into another relationship,whether you are happy being single and hating those cheesy couples present on every corner of the street.... Are you still friends with your ex?is a question which remains.I think the answer to this is quite simple.If your relationship started with a great friendship and you were great friends and only because you got physically desperate and then into a relationship then chances of you remaining friends with your ex friend is higher.Some friends after breakup scenes are also possible if he/she happens to be your family friend or relative.Otherwise I don't think many of us are friends with our exs.Basically for me..a breakup would mean lots of hurt and a strong reason for a breakup involved.That is why friends with an ex would probably mean a bad idea for me.It would be like wearing that same old dirty underwear.Being friends would mean meeting at times,hell meeting on the same places where we went out on dates...and then controlling your feelings which you have overcome after such efforts would all go in vain.It would mean a rush of sorrow every time I saw him.It would mean trying and not kissing him or touching him accidentally.It would mean cursing my destiny and luck and retrospecting again n again as to why we did not make it.It would mean 100% of my mental strength,50% of water in my body and a good night's sleep would be wasted.
But one part of me also says that Yes,what if did not work out.Atleast I can see him once a month.Get to know what he is doing in life.Get a hug probably.My stupid little heart which is still crazy for him will do a salsa in the heart.I would think that probably..do we still have a chance?But the real problem starts when your ex is no more single and has moved on.You can be friends if you both are single.It would probably mean that you both still love each other.But if one is single and other is not,jealous,why not me feelings start to come in and its really disturbing.To the friendship,to your mind.Everything.And if you both are commited and friends..now that would need a great deal of maturity and understanding.It will be like unicorns,..everybody has heard about it.Nobody has ever felt it.
So exs are called exs for a reason.There are reasons why they are not in your life.It is very difficult for you to remain friends if you have not moved on enough.And sometimes this enough is not enough even for a lifetime.Heartbreaks are such.Love is that sweet poison.Happens.Are you friends with your ex?If you are...oh boy,you are like the lucky unicorns that,that your ex still cares about you even after a breakup.You have a true friend there.It means that you both were always ment to be in contact.Congratulations.Its a happy end to a relation.I wish all the relations had such endings,instead of all that awful,bloody hurt in the end.So friends with ex or no friends?You still talk?just talk or even meet?Tell me whats your story.
-Peace and love
Shalaka
This is seriously awesome blog I have come across.Just loved it.May be my life relates to this.I have noticed when my sacrifices went unnoticed and I blamed destiny.later I realized that love is never ever wrong.. Filthily,people are!!
ReplyDeleteI do agree with you. Break up hurts, but losing someone who does not appreciate and respect you is actually a gain, not a loss.
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